Women...

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by tshoot91, May 15, 2013.

  1. tshoot91

    tshoot91 New Member

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    Just had a major fight with my girlfired of 6+ years last night...:confused:

    Long story short here real quick. She just graduated with an associate's degree the other day (still has her PTA degree to do and has been accepted into the program already.) Last night she stops and says she feels that "I'm going nowhere fast".

    Although a couple months ago I was just promoted to a manager position at work making $15.75/hr +OT.

    I've always took good care of this girl. I feel like now that she has a college degree she is on a high horse. (I never finished college when I had this job offer.) When I said this is struck a nerve to the point where I belive I hit the nail right on the head. Now she's talking about a "break" like we all don't known how that one always plays out...:mad:

    Life...:rolleyes:
     
  2. johnr1943

    johnr1943 New Member

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    Six years is a long time. Let cool down and talk about what the "real issue" may be. Be aware that she is looking or found someone she percieves to be "going somewhere fast".

    I don't know what your living arrangements are, but time and observation has shown me lasting relationships need commitment - like marriage. At 70yrs. old my $.02 worth.
     

  3. willshoum

    willshoum New Member

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    Das boot...........

    I have a new pair of wolverine boots size 10 I'll give to you.....you pay shipping...............Must have pics on the out come............:eek:;) Oh and they are extra wide...............
     
  4. eatmydust

    eatmydust New Member

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    I know that male/female relationships are always challenging, and rough patches crop up regularly as do endings. I wish you well in your relationship with this woman, however, if it does not work out, don't blame yourself.

    There are literally billions of people that live their lives without any thought of you - ever. It is the people that have desire to meet you, be around you and spend time and energy on forging and maintaining a relationship with you that matter. Spend time with people that matter.

    I'll tell you what's wrong with you, you're a human being and you are not perfect. No one is!

    That's a news flash to some but common sense to the wise. You'll be fine.
     
  5. Planejain

    Planejain New Member

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    Just for the record for all members of the forum, I have 1 year to go before I get my degree and will be making 75 grand to start out, with room to grow. I buy all my own toys, and oh, I am not looking for a bf. ;)
     
  6. eatmydust

    eatmydust New Member

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    I get the feeling you won't have to "look" for a bf!
     
  7. Planejain

    Planejain New Member

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    Cuz they are like buses? ;)
     
  8. eatmydust

    eatmydust New Member

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    Buses? More like ticks!!:eek:
     
  9. NC1760

    NC1760 New Member

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    You seem to speak as if you are a young man.... and speaking as an old goat here...
    My advice... let her go. A large problem in a lot of relationships is the fact that 1) one or both parties are not, or do not know how to be happy and/or satisfied within a relationship... and 2) there needs to be a realization that one cannot control the heart and mind of the other... The only thing you can ever control in your life is your own self and how you react to events that happen in and around you.

    Long answer short.. you BOTH deserve to be happy. If she is not, let her go. It may seem like your life is collapsing and your heart breaking, but tomorrow the sun will rise... the birds will sing... children will play and you will get on with your life if you choose to also. I get the feeling in a surprisingly short while this will not be such a big thing.
     
  10. tshoot91

    tshoot91 New Member

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    Just my size actually ;)
    On the notes of boots listen to this.

    She wanted to go out and have a "girls night" with some of the chick from the hospital. No big deal, I had to work told her I'd give her a ride when shes ready to leave.
    Call her when i clocked out; She says yeah don't let your phone die I'll call when were ready to leave.
    40 mins later; Get a call "hey can you come me soon"...."sure babe ill leave here in just a few minutes.
    20 mins later; i get to the bar, shes smashed with her girls...(one of the girls dated a buddy of mine, now shes not a huge fan of me :rolleyes:)

    Anyways...They all want one last drink, so i order a soda. Drinks come boom, I've been painted a target. (because she for some odd reason thought i took over an hour to come pick her up) keep in mind I say "wasted" trying to comprehend her call log on the cell phone.

    Sitting at a table at the bar; The song "These Boots are Made for Walking" comes on...:rolleyes:
    Now let it be known, I enjoy a nice round a karaoke as much the next, but good Lord; talk about some childish mind games right at the moment.

    We have never once before in our relationship been on any level of immaturity, we've always been above that. :confused:
     
  11. tshoot91

    tshoot91 New Member

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    Wise words, and you are correct; we both are still young with the rest of our lives ahead of us.

    While I'm one the get caught up with the in's and out's of "religion"; I do have a very strong relationship with the Lord. I view life with the belief that everything truly does happen for a reason according to God's will.
    Life will go on and the Earth will continue to spin until the moment that it will cease. :eek:

    I respect the opinion of many of the members of this site, and knew I would be able to hear some good advice to think over while at work tonight. thank you all. :)
     
  12. gearhead396

    gearhead396 New Member

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    I went through the same thing with my ex...We were together for 4 years. Then one day she starts talking about needing a break. Telling me I don't have a good enough job. All kinds of things, so we take a break and get back together after a few months. We get back together but things were different. I took her a trip to Disney world cause shed always wanted to go. Well guess what when we got back she broke up with me. This girl sounds like she's looking for reasons for y'all to break up. If you persist I bet one day she will just end. I'd say for now just see how she acts, see if she starts getting mad at your for things she never has, once it starts there's no going back.
     
  13. willshoum

    willshoum New Member

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    Can we take up a collection, and pay for the shipping cost of da boots........:eek:;)
     
  14. towboater

    towboater Active Member

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    If she is talking about a break, I'd sure give her one. And it most likely would be a permanent one. There are many good woman out there.
     
  15. stratrider

    stratrider New Member

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    Do you: 1. Own your own boat? 2. Like to hunt? 3. Like to fish? Lol, just kidding, I'm happily married :D
     
  16. txpossum

    txpossum New Member

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    I've been married for 36 years. Divided among four women.
     
  17. dango

    dango Well-Known Member Lifetime Supporter

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    Pssssst.! As one stepping stone to another , we must keep our rock clean and maybe prepare for some newer feet .! Care to borrow my little broom.? :(

    Or ,take a step back , listen and say nothing but observe , open mind is my best advice ! Sometimes things appear differently given a little space.! Good luck to ya.!
     
  18. AIKIJUTSU

    AIKIJUTSU New Member

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    Let her go and be glad you did. She's just been living off of you 'til she finished her school. Now she's going to go find (or has already found) somebody with mo' money to sponge off of. To try to hang on to her will make you look like a beggar. You'll do fine without her, and who knows, maybe you'll meet somebody who loves you for who you are. The next guy she attaches herself to will keep her only until she meets somebody else who'll be another step up the socio-economic ladder.
     
  19. winds-of-change

    winds-of-change The Balota's Staff Member

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    Wills, you are the simplest of men with some complex posts. It always takes me a few seconds to figure out what you're saying.
     
  20. winds-of-change

    winds-of-change The Balota's Staff Member

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    Tshoot, it sounds like things aren't ever going to be the same.