Wife- home defense weapon

Discussion in 'General Handgun Discussion' started by sirbergersworth, Dec 1, 2012.

  1. sirbergersworth

    sirbergersworth New Member

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    Looking for a handgun for my lovely wife.
    She enjoys shooting my M&P 9 Shield but has trouble with operating the slide. It intimidates her and effects her shooting and accuracy.
    I am looking for a pistol for her to shoot at the range a few times a month and use as a bedside gun for home defense.
    Any recomendation of guns for her to try that have a little easier slide operation? She is not interested in carrying so gun format/size is open.
    I have already considered the revolver route. i tried to tell her "there is no slide on a revolver". she wants a semi auto.
    I am trying to stay under $600 if I can.

    Thanks in advance.
    Sir B
     
  2. Billy9mm

    Billy9mm Member Supporter

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    Try the Walther PK380 my wife had trouble with the slide also, the Walther she could manage fairly easy. And can handle firing it as it was more manageable for her.
     

  3. chuckusaret

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    My wife also likes the auto loaders but experienced problems operating the slide. After experiencing a hammer bite while trying my 1911 she selected the Ruger LCR-CT .38. The felt recoil was a problem at first with .38+P, but she now uses wad cutters for practice with no problem(s).
     
  4. Axxe55

    Axxe55 The Apocalypse Is Coming.....

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    best suggestion is to take her to a few gun stores and let her try many different ones out to see which fits her the best and which is easier for her to operated the slide and controls on. she needs to be the one to pick what is suited for her and there is no way another person can truly pick out a handgun for another person and have it fit them.

    another point is many women have a harder time operating the slides on pistols vs. men. check out some videos of women showing other women how to operate the slide and see if that helps.
     
  5. Jpyle

    Jpyle New Member

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    Many semi-autos will use a heavier recoil spring as the frame size gets smaller, reason is that the recoil must be absorbed over a shorter distance or the slide will tear the frame apart. Regardless of the gun size they are all firing the same round at the same pressures. Downside to this is it becomes increasing difficult to rack the slide on smaller pistols.

    In your price range check out the full size or compact M&P, XD, Glock, Kahr or Beretta, no need to keep a pocket gun on your nightstand. The bigger grip and longer slide may provide just enough leverage to get her comfortable with the slide...best thing is to let her try them out and not pressure her one way or the other. She'll know when she finds the gun she is most comfortable with.
     
  6. Cinderocka1989

    Cinderocka1989 Well-Known Member

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    I agree, she needs to hold them and operate the slides on as many as they'll let her, even take her to a range that rents them. Maybe even see if you can find a good used one, the slide will be easier to work, and the magazines will be easier to load. Personally it was never a problem for me but I notice a difference in the slide on the gun I have that's used and the one I just bought.
     
  7. magnumman

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    My wife had problems with the slide on my m&p 45 and my lc9 (when I had it). She had no problem at all with my bersa 383 a.
     
  8. Cinderocka1989

    Cinderocka1989 Well-Known Member

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    Also ask the guys at the store, when I went in he said, we have a lot of women who can't work the slides very well and suggested some that would be good.
     
  9. Jpyle

    Jpyle New Member

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    Cinderocka brings up a good point. Also, if your wife is looking for some first hand experience from female shooters there is a women's only forum here. Have her sign up and get access to it and ask the ladies directly. Try as we might, none of the guys here can provide a women's perspective on shooting. :)
     
  10. Axxe55

    Axxe55 The Apocalypse Is Coming.....

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    both of these are excellent ideas. both make very good sense and sometimes a woman can relate to another woman easier than a man on such issues. that even now well intentioned we as men are, we just can't relate to the same issues as another woman can.
     
  11. danf_fl

    danf_fl Retired Supporter

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    There are many ways to rack a slide, but most pull the slide.

    Try to push the grip away while holding the slide firmly. (One way to look at it, if she cannot push the grip away, would she have enough strength to push the bad guy away?)

    Another thing I have seen is a three sided "block" that is high enough for the barrel to fit into but not the slide. The idea was to place the handgun muzzle down and push with one's weight. The opening is large enough for the barrel, but not the slide.

    With the revolver, there is no slide. Load the bullets (should have been loaded already), cock the hammer with the non-dominant hand thumb while maintaining a two hand hold.
     
  12. sirbergersworth

    sirbergersworth New Member

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    Thanks for all the comments. I have trouble getting her to the gun store, but I am sure if I am buying her a gun she will get excited.

    Btw, we have talked about a gun for her but I haven't told her that the GunVault I bought last week was not for the M&P22. lol.
     
  13. Cinderocka1989

    Cinderocka1989 Well-Known Member

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    Hopefully you find something that works and something she enjoys shooting
     
  14. sirbergersworth

    sirbergersworth New Member

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    That will be the plan. Thanks
     
  15. FAS1

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    I recently recommended to a friend that she take a class so she can get some basic instruction and be able to try several guns at the range to see what felt good to her. She ended up with a G19 a couple weeks later. She took a women only class where she didn't feel intimidated and getting instructions from a professional can be a much better experience than from her husband. She loved the class and has signed up for more so she can be confident and proefficent with her new gun.

    Here's some more info that might help her. http://www.corneredcat.com/article/choosing-firearms/trying-on-a-handgun/
     
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    I just did this with my wife. She likes the Glock 9mm and the XD 9mm. We are going to the range to rent in the near future.
     
  18. cj84

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    I started my wife out shooting a glock 19. But it was my gun so I bought her a 380 and I carry a 45 but then I got to thinking it doesn't make much sense to not trust my life to a 380 but trust hers with it so now we both carry 45s.
     
  19. BigB

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    A lot of good advice here! I know when I leave for work I don't like leaving my wife and kids empty handed. Sure there's always the shotgun, but that intimidates her. She always seems to like the pink .22 autos, I don't feel that is enough even though I sure as heck wouldn't stand in front of one, plus they seem to be way overpriced! She tried a Bersa Thunder .380 and liked it, nice little gun, problem was the guy who wanted to sell it to me changed his mind as soon as he thought he really had something. Lately I've been thinking another 9mm would be best as she is more than capable of operating my XD, and common ammunition saves money!
     
  20. Overkill0084

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    What's her experience level?
    Itty bitty guns can be a handful for inexperienced shooters. Is the slide problem a strength issue or simply a "hard to hold on to" issue? Get her to the range and test a some of the more common full sized 9 mms out there.
    Technique matters as well. You might want to hunt down a female firearms instructor to tutor her on the finer points.