Tell me if I did the right thing?

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by DrFootball, Jul 14, 2013.

  1. DrFootball

    DrFootball disappointed & disgusted, But DETERMINED... Lifetime Supporter

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    A few months back, after being involved in sports media(for almost 30 yrs.) as a sideline to Coaching & Teaching, I shut down my Website, Radio shows, and other activities I was Involved with, Because two people I Thought were very close friends(one of almost 10 Yrs. and the other since childhood,..45 years) were conspiring to take over my company because they didn't like my Putting "integrity" before Money. I never treated anyone wrongly, but I have a strong will, and refuse to back off my principals when it comes to this stuff. To me, you are only as good as your word. So I walked away, and refuse to deal with those people or anyone who has dealing with them. I just "Unfriended" another of those childhood friends today because he is also working with them. Funny thing is none of These people would be involved at the level they are if not for me. My wife(bless her, she deserves none of this) stood at my side through this whole ordeal for me,..even when they called her behind my back because they wanted her to help them "Ease me" through the transition of giving up my company to them).
    I felt I had to do what I did because they were taking shots at my credibility among other things...(because Someone promised me an extra media credential and didn't come through, so my cred. is shot?)
    I think i did what i had to do, walk away,...My wife thinks i made a mistake and i just should have continued on with out them,..having kicked them to the curb.....
     
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  2. hawkguy

    hawkguy Well-Known Member

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    in my experience, money + family/friends = BAD

    i had to refuse to business with a very good friend on financing our home. he was sorta pissed at the time, but we are still good friends.

    i don't even exchange $ with friends in any way. any deals are done through trades....i work on your house, you pay me in alcohol, lap dances :)p) or bullets....not cash. and i also never LOAN money to friends or family...if i can't GIVE it, the answer is NO.

    i've seen too many good relationships destroyed by money.
     
  3. johnr1943

    johnr1943 New Member

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    Whether you did or did not "do right" is way secondary to your relationship with your wife. You guys need to have this sorted by a qualified third pary. It will take work and the other will sort itself out.

    As one "strong willed" guy to another, keep on keeping on - always too soon to quit. :)
     
  4. DrFootball

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    I never wanted to Quit,..but i got tired of being the good guy....thanks for your answers!
     
  5. vincent

    vincent New Member

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    Call the cops you stole my answer!!! :D

    Money and friends are a bad mix...I've lent money to friends in the past and of course problems usually follow...I've reserved myself to the fact that if I ever do lend out money to a friend, to just count on never getting it back, and be pleasantly surprised if and when I do. It'll tell you a lot about the friendship...

    If these people are going behind your back, they have NO BALLS...

    The right thing for them to do is man up and come to a conclusion face to face...if they can't do that, were they really your friends in the first place? Sucks to think about after all that time but life ain't all roses either...

    If staying in would cause you more stress than getting out, then you did the right thing, life is too short...
     
  6. Tackleberry1

    Tackleberry1 New Member

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    I'm with John on this one... As long as your only true partner, your wife, is in your corner, the rest of it is secondary.

    I'm not saying you should compromise your principles to please her... but... she does deserve to fully understand the "why."

    Tack
     
  7. DrFootball

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    No she is def.behind me. She is the most important person in my life. thanks again....
     
  8. Daoust_Nat

    Daoust_Nat Well-Known Member Supporter

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    Only you can give away your good name. Not others. If you make your decisions on your good name, and it's value, you can always afford to walk away. Anything else is a bite in the butt down the road.
     
  9. Sniper03

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    DR.

    This says loads about your integrity! My Dad always told me if you do not stand for something you will stand for anything. And Integrity and honesty is one to stand for! That is what is wrong with our Country today. People stand for anything! And will not take a stand for integrity and honesty. Well some will not! I have always found out that I do not expect people to always like me but if they at least respect me for being honest and doing what is right who gives a D about the others. There time will come!
    So hopes and prayers go to you and your great lady! Being as successful as you have been there is always a new goal to pursue. I have also been up and been down but the Big Man upstairs has always rewarded me with something better in the end no matter how discouraged I was at times. At the present life is good and I have more opportunities than ever and I deserve. I wish the same for you! And believe no doubt it will happen for you if you go after it! Just another hurdle in life which tempers us and makes us better and appreciate what we have!

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  10. DrFootball

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    Thanks 03! I have always stood for the "right thing".....sometimes that gets lost in the pursuit of the goal...
     
  11. tri70

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    You did right, they deserve a friendly butt kicking and go your separate ways. Shame on the for not being good friends and up front instead of backstabbing. Keep your good name and start over, you can make new friends.
     
  12. texaswoodworker

    texaswoodworker New Member

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    I think you did the right thing, though I don't know about closing down all of your businesses. Was there not a way to push them out of a position of power in the company?

    You stood by what you believe is right, and that deserves respect in my book.
     
  13. KJG67

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    Just curious - did this have anything to do with FantasyFootball.com and Craig Davis?
     
  14. DrFootball

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    I have heard of the site but not the person...
     
  15. DrFootball

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    Sadly if I allowed the website to stand, they would have found a way to commandeer it. They were all admins, and one was much more web-tech savvy then I am, and he was the one posting political stuff that I asked on 3 instances before that Not to post anything that was not football related. This guy plays both sides against each other, and I was tired of 9+ years of his excuses as well as not agreeing with most of his politics( I'm about as centrist as they come). When I said to him early that week about him posting that stuff again his answer was for me to "Check with your other partners." Now no matter if I'm on a break and let someone else run things for a few weeks, it's still my company and I paid the hosting and radio broadcast fees,..I decide what got posted.he claimed that by not letting him do his thing I cost him tens of thousands of dollars. So then we are even because in 9+ years working with him he never paid me more then 300 bucks per season, and he has the cubes to tell me how much money he makes yet he offers me 100 dollars! Please,..there is a reason he has few friends or can't get a date...
     
  16. DrFootball

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    It was so stressing that I needed a 2 month break and these guys wouldn't let me alone, and they knew I was just going to walk away if they kept screwing with me but they wanted me to get so fed up that I'd do anything they wanted. One kept ordering me to do as he said or else,..and the other two were just playing along. Funny thing is just two weeks before those two were telling me to dump mr Swuave because he told me" You should dump everyone else". He also called my local PD telling them I was unstable, causing 9 police to show up at my house at 11:30 at night. Which took me all of 2 plus hrs to straiten out and not get my guns taken away( the kicker for the cops was when my wife told them the exact same story as me, and they saw my stuff hangin on the wall-we built a memorial wall to both our fathers police & Military careers) and they realized this guy sent them on a wild goose chase....we are currently in civil litigation over that sub-incident and I had to turn over a hard drive copy of all my files to my Property rights atty...since these idiots also tried lying to folks that I quit and left them with the company....yeah,..some friends I was doing business with...I was hospitalized the week before the draft because of dehydration and was in kidney failure with a blood sugar count of 27! Yet I didn't want to let people down by staying home so 3 days after getting out of the hospital I'm getting on a red eye out of sky harbor to JFK...that's the dedication & loyalty I had to my craft and my co-operators...
     
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  17. AR10

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    We just came out of a big trial, where both sides of the debate were presented to a jury. Prosecution and Defense.

    Your story is just one side. Hearing just one side, yes, lets stone those miserable people. How dare they share our same oxygen. First stone hurriling towards them now.
     
  18. DrFootball

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    That's true, but if I were making this up why would a dozen other professionals refuse to work with them? The "former" best friend of 45+ years knows he was wrong, for 2 weeks after he kept txting me telling me one minute how he was through being my B&^%* and the next telling me "if you want to come back, there is a seat here for you, whenever that is"..These Guys had my other friends in the biz who were also friends almost believing that i was Crazy, Unstable, and a host of other things which just aren't true. My Former "friend & Biz Partner" from Oakland who is a first class Muckraker who plays both sides against the middle, probably got scared because he knows my past(in service to our country) and might have thought I'd go after him, and admittedly at first I was angry enough,...but I'd never be STUPID enough to go that route...
     
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