Strict Dad

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by Daniel_H, Oct 10, 2010.

  1. Daniel_H

    Daniel_H New Member

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    I'm 16 - my Dad is very against guns and the whole firearms culture. But I've tried to explain to him that this is a part of life in today's society.

    Quite simple. The cops have guns, the public should have a similiar right. Dad won't listen, or let me go anywhere near guns.

    Is he being unreasonable? Or am I?

    Danny
     
  2. suprdave

    suprdave New Member

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    You're 16, and have to live by his rules while in his house. Once you move out, buy a shotgun! Until then...dream about the arsenal you shall someday own!
     

  3. cpttango30

    cpttango30 New Member

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  4. Daniel_H

    Daniel_H New Member

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    Plenty of dreams, yup!
     
  5. lonyaeger

    lonyaeger Active Member

    He's your father, listen to him until you're supporting yourself.
     
  6. Rick1967

    Rick1967 Well-Known Member

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    I would say to respect your dad until you turn 18 and move out. But do as much research as possible. When you are old enough, take a shooting class and buy a gun.

    There are a lot of people like your dad. You may never win him over. Fighting with parents as a teenager is not in your best interest.
     
  7. Daniel_H

    Daniel_H New Member

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    I do know what you're saying, and I do try to show respect. Just sometimes I wish he would be a little more flexible and open-minded. I try to see his point of view, and I know it's his house and his rules. But I would like him to make a little more effort to understand my views too.
     
  8. lonyaeger

    lonyaeger Active Member

    I think we all probably went through the same thing when we were teenagers. It's part of the life cycle. Good luck with it. You seem like a polite, well-spoken young man. You'll be okay.
     
  9. spittinfire

    spittinfire New Member Supporter

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    I agree with everyone here. hang in there and when you're on your own you can buy as many guns as you want.
     
  10. winds-of-change

    winds-of-change The Balota's Staff Member

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    Okay, here is a moment of truth. I was like that, too, when my children were younger. I didn't know anything about guns and I worried about my children's safety. I thought guns killed people and they were nothing but trouble. I worried there were guns in their friends house when my children went to play at other's homes. Then I met someone who taught me about gun safety. Of course, this was just a year ago and my children are all adults. He told me my car is more dangerous than a gun. He asked me if I hid the knives from my children when they were in their teens because a knife could be a dangerous thing, too. He explained to me the rules of gun safety and that a gun is NOT for flaunting around and to intimidate people. Then I flew out to California to visit this friend and he took me to a shooting range. He was very kind a patient and let me try several guns. He made sure not to hand me a gun that would possibly scare me with some fierce recoil. I got hooked and within 5 months of being back home, I bought my first gun. (Oddly enough I bought a .357 Magnum revolver that has some 'good' recoil but I kind of like it.) My children were shocked!! That is the last thing they ever would have thought I would do. Oftentimes, people are fearful of things they know little or nothing about. That was definitely my situation. My daughter was appalled as I spend a lot of time with my 4 year old granddaughter at my house. My gun is always locked in a Gun Vault. My family's safety is of utmost importance to me. But as others have said, you must respect your Father. I'm sure he has your best interest and safety at heart. When you get out on your own, buy yourself whatever gun suits your fancy and take him shooting. Teach him the facts about gun safety and show him what a great hobby target shooting can be. Prove yourself to be a responsible young man not only in gun safety but in other aspects of your life, too. My oldest son has gone target shooting with me and we had a great time together. I agree with Rick1967 to research and learn all you can. Also, as Rick said, there are a lot of people like your Dad and I was one of them. I even cringed when they shot water 'guns' at each other. My kids were not allowed any guns as toys but then they started building guns with Lego's and using their index fingers as guns and pointing and shooting bananas at each other. I must say my children have all grown up to be kinds, caring and compassionate adults. None of them have ever shot anyone and they have no violent tendencies despite the fact they 'shot' each other often. I was very, VERY misinformed and I am embarrassed to be revealing this information about me. I'm just saying I understand where your Dad might be coming from, even though he is misinformed. We all grow and learn and change as we go through life. Again, follow his rules and you can do what you want when you get out on your own. Maybe in the future you and your Dad can share some fun times together with a gun. Good luck and be patient. I know your Father loves you and he is looking out for you in the only way he knows how.
     
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  11. igordog

    igordog New Member

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    I would say, continue coming here and talking to people, reading and taking part in conversations about firearms until you decide to move out on your own.
    Once you're out on your own, you can make an educated decision on what type(s) of firearm(s) you would like to own for yourself and for what purpose(s).
    Don't only come here. Do your own independent research as well. Find out what interests you in the wide world gun ownership, and learn as much as you can...That way you can be an expert on the subject when the time comes for you to make your first purchase(s).
    I don't believe that your father is being unreasonable. He may just have a different standpoint on the topic. He's probably also looking out for what he believes are your best interests, and your family's best interests as well. You may not agree with him, but I'm sure that he means no harm. While you're living under his roof, you have to respect and obey him. There's no getting around that.
     
  12. Theunsb

    Theunsb New Member

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    Respect your father as stated by all until you can do your own thing in your own dwelling.
    However nothing stops you from getting training and experience presently through other gun owners.
     
  13. Jpyle

    Jpyle New Member

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    I will throw in my $.02 and agree with the others. You Dad has his reasons for feeling the way he does and although you may disagree with him you should respect his wishes. When the day comes that you are out on your own you can buy whatever gun you wish. Who knows, you may even be able to convince your Dad that shooting is a safe and enjoyable recreational sport that you can enjoy together.
     
  14. Daniel_H

    Daniel_H New Member

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    Thank you all for some excellent advice. I think to use this time to gather information and think more clearly is a great idea. That way, when I come to use guns I will be better informed and hopefully a more responsible user.

    I do truly respect Dad, as I said. We just both have to make a bit of efort sometimes to understand each other's viewpoints.

    But Dad has the final word. He always has!
     
  15. Jpyle

    Jpyle New Member

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    quoted for truth...very mature attitude you have there...it will take you a long way in life. By the way...welcome to the forum.
     
  16. Daniel_H

    Daniel_H New Member

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    Thanks. I hope people haven't received this thread as disloyalty to my Dad. I respect and obey him! The only difficulty I have sometimes is that most of the effort to understand comes from me, and not so much from him. Or so it seems!
     
  17. CA357

    CA357 New Member Supporter

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    Welcome to the FTF community. :cool:

    You've been given some rock solid advice. Now it's on you to do something with it. You seem like a reasonable and polite young man. Continue to stay reasonable, open minded and responsible and the world is yours.
     
  18. CA357

    CA357 New Member Supporter

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    Winds, you are definitely the goods. :)
     
  19. Shihan

    Shihan Active Member Lifetime Supporter

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    It could be a real good thing for you two to learn together and have some moments that will live with you the rest of your life. My son has his own Rifle and Shotgun.
    Maybe if you continue to have mature conversation with him on the topic and maybe take a class together.
    Does he know you are on this forum? Here are some pics of my son, now 8, and daughter, now 13, shooting and enjoying firearms with their Dad. Maybe show him, might help steer him in a favorable position.
    You seem like a very mature young man for being 16, some of the younger ones that pass through are not so and could understand if their parents didn't want them around firearms. Good Luck and continue to mind you Pa.

    Didn't realize the first pic was so big, Sorry.
     

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  20. m260gt

    m260gt New Member

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    I agree, guns can be a good way to spend time with your dad. ive been hunting with my dad since i was 9, im now 21. We've always had rifles and stuff, and he has taught me all about gun safety and i make sure to keep all of that with me. I dont live with my parents anymore and when i told him i wanted to buy a hand gun, he disagreed with it. said they were too dangerous. even though he and my mom both have one. But i make my own money and pay for all my own stuff so I bought one anyways. And im sure he'll like it when he sees it. Ive respected him ever since i started living with him and its done nothing but make it easier on me. So keep respecting him and do a bunch of research. and when youre on your own buy whatever you want!