some times it just seems they dont understand

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by dirtysouth, Aug 16, 2008.

  1. dirtysouth

    dirtysouth New Member

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    I think for us that buy and use firearms loves what we do. But some time it just seems either our spouses or people around us just dont understand why. Take my wife for instance, shes always asking me why do i like guns and have to go shooting all the time? Why i sputter why well i tell her.

    I tell her that the reason i like guns is because they go bang and i look good doin it. She rolls her eyes. I have tired the tactic well if God forbids somebody ever attacks us that i want to be able to protecet us and our family.

    My son doesnt feel this way he hides in the van everytime i go shooting so he can go to. I have tried to get my wife to go shooting with us told her how fun it is. Nope she says i dont want to go is a waste of time. I tell her what happens if im gone and something happens and you have to use a gun to protect yourself or even protect me if i go down. She tells me i have a knife and i have seen you load those things before. My wife scares me.

    When i have come home with new guns she gets this look on her face like i just killed the cat. The one that make you feel like you a very tasty turkey leg and shes about to eat me. I have tired to tell her its for her. That doesnt work.

    Now i know what my parents felt when i used to say they just dont understand. My wife just doesnt understand.
     
  2. junho806

    junho806 New Member

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    i feel ya man
    for me, my parents have all those stereotypes about guns like only pyscho messed up people have guns
    its just a hobby is it not?
    ok so its a bit more expensive but everyone has a hobby that they just love and enjoy right?
    what makes us so different from the guy who collects stamps or baseball cards...
    we face alot of misunderstanding and stereotypes out there
    :(
    but i guess at the same time we should be inspired to break those stereotypes
    and just because people misunderstand our hobby doesn't mean we should stop doing what we like to do and are passionate about
    someday maybe your wife will see that guns aren't such a bad thing after all
    :D
     

  3. dango

    dango Well-Known Member Lifetime Supporter

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    Under-stand This !

    My wife has 27 purses,42 pairs of shoes,22 nicky nacky due-dads,4 complete sets of plates and assorted sets of siver-ware.She also has control of 95% of all living and storeage space in the our home.Do I understand ? I am quite familiar with that ( hungry boa chock the life out of you look),but it really dose`nt carry a whole lot of weight.I have my garage,my tools,my three glocks,and an occasional schotch on yte rocks.NO ARGUMENTS.Life is goood!:D
     
  4. chorst294

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    I'll have to admit, I've got it pretty good regarding new gun purchases. Recently, I've been getting those subtle hints about new furniture. I could've lived with the smelly, worn out furniture we had and enjoyed a new Springfield MIA Socom :D, but responsiblity took over and I'm expecting the furniture delivered soon. O'well, she won this time.
     
  5. BigO01

    BigO01 New Member

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    Well dirtysouth you put yourself in that position by marrying her .

    I never took the chance , by the third or 4th date it was time for a range trip and if a girl had a problem with it I quit calling her just that simple . I would never have had a women and then children with her if she wasn't mature enough to understand that life is dangerous filled with sick sadistic people who may harm you and yours and she needs to have at least the very basic skills to defend my children .

    Simply not liking guns and thinking it is all a waste of time is a tad better than being horribly antigun but not by much .

    The news is full of all kinds of true stories of serial and thrill killers that target even some of the nicest neighborhoods and people all on a pure chance basis .

    If she refuses to learn to use a gun I wonder what other things she might refuse to do to stay safe , does she carelessly open the door to strangers even at night without so much as looking out first ? Does she keep the doors locked and garage door closed ? Allow you to own a good sized dog for home protection ? Dose she have friends who she blabs to when you buy new guns or when you're going on vacation ?

    Me I would be looking for a good attorney and planning for a future without her and I would make sure to tell her why .

    Like I've told a few liberal lady's at work who have gone out of their way to share their opinion on the subject of gun ownership "I appreciate your candor and I now know that I shouldn't waste my time trying to help you if some guy jumps you on the parking lot to rape , kidnap and or kill you because you're a waste of oxygen in my eyes because if you don't value your life enough to try to protect yourself neither do I" .

    Life is too short to waste time with people who don't live in the real world .
     
  6. fapprez

    fapprez New Member

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    I totally know what you mean.

    I had an old motorcycle in my shed for the longest time. I had "plans" to fix it up and make it new again. Never happened. ANyway, one day she waltzes in and tells me it's time to get rid of it. So I traded it for a shotgun. You would have thought I sold her car. "Why do you need another gun?" I simply replied, "Hey, the bike's gone!"
     
  7. opaww

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    How do I love the? Let me count the ways. 1 bullet, 2 bullets, 3 bullets, 4…….5 bullets, 6 bullets there are a lot more. If you buy me a box of bullets I will love you long time…2 boxes I’ll love you even more.

    That attempt at poetry was lame I know. That being said, I was lucky I had a wife that liked guns somewhat, but she could do without them if she did not have one. One year I was hard pressed to find something for our soon upcoming anniversary, milling around in the mall I found myself in a sporting goods store and low and behold there was my answer. A brand new Mossberg 12 gage pump shotgun.

    So I bought her the new shotgun and a few boxes of shells. Had them wrap it up and all that good stuff. I brought it home and presented it to my wife, her eyes were 3 times as big with excitement at something I got her for our anniversary. When she unwrapped it I just knew I had got the right thing and she would be happy. Her eyes did change in appearance thought and as I saw her opening the boxes of shells and loading them into the weapon. I had this feeling I may have forgot something and the better thing for me to do would be sleep in the dog house with the dog until I could remember just what I forgot.
     
  8. cpttango30

    cpttango30 New Member

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    I feel you dirtysouth. My wife doesn't like guns too much. She has been shooting once with me and that was it.

    My parents on the other hand were very supportive of me having guns. Even my anti-gun stepmom who just said I don't like them but if you like them good for you.

    I always get asked by people who don't own guns why I have so many? I just say because they each do something different.
     
  9. ScottG

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    They don't understand because we feel safer than we really are. The police on tv are supermen and women who will arrive just in time to thwart the bad guys. We have 911. We have alarm systems that will make the most determined burglar run away when he/she hears that alarm and sees that Brinks sign.

    We don't have wild animals intruding into our space that threaten us. The streets are generally quiet. We're cocooned in our cars and our houses. We stay out of the "bad part" of town. We're conditioned to accept different people. We are told not to profile. We are told we're paranoid. We are told we're bitter and clingy.

    Unless you are actually faced with a criminal. we feel there aren't any around. We are oblivious to everything around us. The magical unicorn will protect us from evil. Increasing the power of the state will keep us from harm.

    All these things contribute to why some, or in fact probably most, people don't understand why we buy guns. Once they face danger, then they may begin to understand. Sadly for many, that one time they face personal danger is at the end of their lives. Then it's too late.
     
  10. dragunovsks

    dragunovsks New Member

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    My wife is the same way, about every other week she comes home and says she gonna buy a new pair of shoes or another purse. Meanwhile if I go buy a box of .223 rounds at $6.25 a box, she gets pissed off. She just rolls her eyes when I say that a man can never have too much ammo. I took her out into the yard one day and told her that I have guns and since she is around them that she should learn how to use them. While I've dischargesd hundreds of thousands of rounds in my 24 years, she's well under 100 in her 22 years.

    She always says we never do anything fun together, but when I suggest we go do some target practice, she gets pissed and says no. When she says this I tell her never to ask me to waste anymore countless hours in Wal-Mart or Kohl's or any other shopping center.

    I'm going into the army soon, so I told her that since I'll be gone for basic and AIT that she was gonna learn to shoot to protect herself. The rural area we live in is known by the Indiana State Police to be meth lab country. I let her shoot a .22 revolver that I borrow from her dad and she actually liked shooting it. She refused to shoot my pump 12 gauge though.

    She once asked me why I refuse to buy a new truck and park my old 88' F-150. I told her that she has her 05' Escape and I have my AR. I'd rather spend my hard earned money on guns than on vehicles that depreciate like crazy.
     
  11. genie

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    Regular Folks & Guns

    The message sent out by America's leadership reaches very far and wide, and touches nearly everyone who ever hears or sees a newscast.

    The message is that You, the people, are safer in an environment containing no guns. It COULD be true, if such a place existed, but rest assured, "they" are working on that, cleverly excising one after another of our gun rights, mostly unconstitutionally.

    My in-laws truly believed they were safer in their home gunless, that an intruder would not hurt them if they were not armed, but would likely maim or kill them if they were! Such logic totally escaped me, and I told them so. My father in law served in WW II, and was not a stranger to guns; somehow he caved in to the nation-wide belief that guns must go.

    The other side of the coin is where individuals having widespread followings of people, such as Ann Landers had, perpetuate the anti-gun propaganda; these same persons are usually protected by armed guards themselves, but continually speak out against gun ownership. Needless to say, Ms. Landers, and any of the others such as Charles Schumer, Diane Feinstein, Obama, etc., would likely view self-defense for the INDIVIDUAL much differently, had they ever been raped, mugged, burglarized, or watched a loved-one injured or killed by some predator.

    It is most difficult to open the minds of the brainwashed; attempting to do so meets firmer resistance, rather than possible positive consideration. So, you guys whose wives are still of the "guns are undesirable" mentality have a difficult position. One thing I have seen which changes outlooks is enrollment in a good self-defense class, in which the instructor uses solid examples and forceful explanation to prove the folly of "unarmed resistance". I have excerpts of such a class, which I can send to anyone who might like to view it- my eyes were surely opened by it, and perhaps your wives' eyes might be, too!

    Just ask. Don't be bashful!!!
     
  12. genie

    genie New Member

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    Draguno, guns are better than money in the bank. Banks often go under. My wife, too, is a product of small-town Indiana, the northern part, above Ft. Wayne, and when I met her she was shocked by my interest in guns. Or the money I put into buying more. Then she witnessed firsthand the buying frenzy at gun shows (we lived in Phoenix, then) as the country prepared for Clinton's restrictive "Crime Bill". Guys met me as I entered the door, asking to buy the AR, Uzi, or other "assault style" I was carrying.

    That experience mellowed out her reluctance to accept more guns. 'Course, the A.D. I had which put a 9mm bullet through a wall and lodged it in an old T-V did not help matters!
     
  13. dirtysouth

    dirtysouth New Member

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    some times it just seems that the reason people dont understand or want to understand is the fear of not knowing. Not knowing guns and when you want to teach them something they either take it as a joke or get mad at you and walk away. Some times its the way they were raised guns were for hunting and thats all or there was no guns in the home.

    WELL FOLKS its time for those people to learn about guns the way they are used. How they used so when it goes down if godforbid it does there not the one laying in the street or in the bushes dead.

    My wife came to me today and finally asked me to teach her how to use a gun. She said that one of her friends was beat up and mugged last night and she thought it was a good idea if she could protect herself FINALLY.

    So i grabbed a couple of hand guns and a shotgun and took her out side and taught her how to load them strip them hold them and shoot them. She had a blast at the range. She did tell me it doesnt mean i get to buy another gun so there goes the AR for another couple of months.

    So i guess since im the one started this thread. Im glad she finally understands. But there are still people around me who just dont understand i guess ill keep working on them to.
     
  14. ScottG

    ScottG New Member

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    Score another one! The reality of evil in our lives ran smack into the "I don't need a gun belief." At least your wife understands that guns in the hands of the good guys is a social good. Good for her and good for you and good for society. Bad for the criminals, but....
     
  15. Musket

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    I guess I am an anomoly then :)

    I shoot with my husband--and the rare occassion my score is better, I get to chant "you got beat by a girl" all the way home. hahahaha.

    Seriously though, the shooting keeps our marriage together. Its something we both enjoy. As an added plus--when he is at the range with the boys, I know exactly where he is, what he is doing and who he is with

    Last night we were on the computer looking at some nice side by sides on gunbroker. One of us is getting something nice for Christmas :D

    A suggestion for you gents that have a gun fearing wife: find a friend who has a wife that shoots and then have 'her" introduce your wife/girlfriend to guns.

    Also--trying getting a subscription to things like Women & guns magazine, and checking your local club to see if they have a ladies range day or some other type of program for women or youths.

    Frequently women are either intimidated (not me--recoil does not disturb me), OR they simply do not like taking orders from husbands.

    When husband and I first started shooting together, we had some intense fights on the range--whch is not a good place to be angry with the spouse :rolleyes:

    Just my two cents.

    Oh and this past year I suggested my husband get a motorcycle too......

    Does this make me a keeper? hahaha:D
     
  16. genie

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    Ma'am, you are too good for words! One in a million, absolutely!!
     
  17. c3shooter

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    Musket, my current shooting partner is one of my grandkids- she has been shooting with me for 2 years- currently age 12. Shoots 22rf at 50 and 100 meters- and anyone that thinks its "cute" that I "let the little girl shoot" gets met with a smile, and a casual offer to put 5 bucks on the next 5 rd group. (Gotta get the kid to quit hustling shooters- think she is saving up for an X-box or something) I DID get her a T-shirt that says "Shoot like a girl- if you CAN" Have taught all of our kids to shoot over the years, and working my way thru the grandkids. Marvelous what you can do with 12 yr old vision and reflexes!
     
  18. Musket

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    aw shucks--i'm not all that. :eek:

    I get frustrated with antigun wives too. We have a few guys out at the club who have to lie to their wives and tell them they are out getting the lawnmower fixed or whatever.

    Then there is a guy I know, whose wife only allows him one gun--the shotgun he hunts with--period. He was drooling over a shotgun I purchased last year, and when he asked wifey about buying another--she nixed that idea. :(

    I mentioned to a coworker one year that I was letting husband get himself this neat little side by side for sporting clays. She about near had a heart attack--aren't you afraid of it shooting someone???!!! :eek:

    Nope, I told her--my guns have never taken themselves out on joyrides shooting up the town. :p

    But--she wanted to know why I would waste all that money on a shotgun?

    Well the answer is simple. I was planning on letting him buy the shotgun so I could then get away with buying a target pistol...oops--she almost had a stroke.

    We wont discuss the looks I got when the coworkers found out that I was buying boxes of shells as stocking stuffers.

    But--there are a group of us couples--husbands & wives that shoot together on weekends. Its fun, and the ladies and gents do their respective things.

    So again, I would encourage those with spousal "antis" to hook them up with other ladies who can take them out for some plinking and other nonscary gun related activities.
     
  19. Musket

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    Thats great--this is where our future leaders come from. Now if "I" could just be twelve again :)

    I think its great when I see folks bringing out the kids to teach them. In fact, one of the couples we shoot with on a regular basis bring along the son, who has become quite the shooter. He makes me jealous :D
     
  20. dirtysouth

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    I take my kids every chance i get one is 14 and he can shoot a pistol with the best of them. The other is 11 and she shoots 22lr at 30yds, 50 yds and
    shes just starting at a 100yds. My youngest is 1 and im starting her with a bebe gun. My wife is so new that shes going to be just practicing the basics for awhile. I have been to the range a couple of times were there hasnt been any shooting lanes open and have started a poker game right there at the picnic tables. Its all in fun