I am considering buying a .357 mag revolver to be used by my wife & myself for home protection. We both have experience shooting semi-auto's but like the reliability of the revolver. My hands are meduim size & my wifes are small(but she is fairly strong). My concerns or questions are (1) how is the felt recoil (2) what model .357 mag handgun would you recommend? (3) what barrel lenght would you suggest using on your recommended .357 mag handgun? (4) any other suggestions you have on the .357 mag handgun P.S. A shooter at our local range suggested my wife & I look at the Ruger SP- 101-.357mag revolver--any thoughts you have on this handgun/ Thank-You for your time & attention to my thread Happy New Year! 2009!