Mom Broke Her Hip

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by Vikingdad, Mar 29, 2013.

  1. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    Just got a call from my brother (whom our mom lives with). Mom fell and broke her hip. I am furious because it happened when she was trying to close a messed up door to her deck that she and I have been after him to fix since before she moved in with them last April. Words fail me.:mad:
     
  2. towboater

    towboater Active Member

    4,577
    16
    38
    Id be pissed too. I hope she gets well soon.
     

  3. Zombiegirl

    Zombiegirl New Member

    4,126
    1
    0
    I hope she is comfortable and heals quickly.
     
  4. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    He says she is comfortable as long as she doesn't move much. They are at the hospital and getting her checked into a room. I will go over tomorrow morning to see her. Given this is Good Friday, and Easter Sunday is coming up, I don't know when they can do anything. My brother is a doctor though and that has some advantages. I hope the orthopedic surgeon is one of his patients. I might be pissed at him but I won't pass up the advantages.
     
  5. F4U

    F4U Well-Known Member Supporter

    2,557
    65
    48
    Wait a little bit before you blame your brother, I don't know your situation for sure but when this happened to my grandma we found out that in a lot of these situations the hip broke CAUSING the fall not the other way around.Elderly bones can be very brittle.

    Just saying it might not be the time to start a family feud.
     
  6. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    I'm not going there with him at all. That's why I bring it up here. And it was the door that caused the fall, he even said so. It is one of those double-door sets that was installed incorrectly before they bought the house. In preparation for moving mom in I kept insisting that they fix the door or replace it as required. One of the problems is that the door handle on the primary door does not fasten to the axle properly, so it slips off sometimes. Combine this with the fact that the door is not properly hung so you have to pull the handle to slam it shut or it won't latch, and the damned handle falls off in your hand. That is what happened to her and she fell as a result.

    The other issue (though not a contributing factor in any way) is that you cannot lock this door. It is a door to the deck, which has access to the ground floor. Anybody can just walk into the house. And they have 4 kids 17 and under, one of whom is a beautiful young girl. I cannot for the life of me understand how they can ignore a door that does not lock.
     
  7. winds-of-change

    winds-of-change The Balota's Staff Member

    29,442
    296
    83
    I am so sorry to hear this, Vikingdad. Even though it's Easter weekend, if she needs surgery, they'll do it. I'll bet she'll get a whole brand new hip. :eek:

    She lives near you, right?
     
  8. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    Thanks Winds. I did hear back from my brother a little while ago, she is scheduled for surgery tomorrow at around 10:00 AM for a hip replacement. I did talk to her a bit too. I am going over in the AM (have to get to bed soon) to see her. It is about a 25 minute drive.

    Heck, look at the time! I am off to bed.
     
  9. steadyshot

    steadyshot New Member

    919
    0
    0
    Hope your mom makes a fast and full recovery. Might be time to get together with your brother and address the things your mom needs or wants.

    Sounds like you might need to help your brother fix some things around his house.

    You got to do what you got to do in order to take care of your mom.:)
     
  10. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    Yeah, we do that regularly with our sister. Just did it on Monday night and I brought up the door issue yet again. He blew me off saying it is "not that big of an issue". Yet again.

    I have fixed a bunch of things up around the house for her, installed a kitchenette, got a small fridge for her, set up her microwave, arranged for and supervised getting a stairlift so that she could get upstairs as she is no longer able to climb stairs safely. I was working on getting her deck set up with some plants as it was barren of anything other than the two chairs and small table I shopped for with her (A month or so ago they were brought downstairs for a party- that mom was not invited to attend- and left down there for two weeks despite mom asking that they be brought back up to "her" deck, during which the dog chewed the table up). I have planted a couple of very low-maintenence potted plants, but on Monday during our "discussion" I was told that I was not to "intrude" as much. The plants are "too much work", even though I am maintaining them myself and there is an automated watering system in place to take care of that aspect. So, other than the fig tree I planted and the potted pine that they bought for her for Christmas (and is dying because of the abuse it has endured) the deck is pretty barren, just take a look at the picture below. The two pots with the lavender have been moved downstairs.

    Just went to visit her in the hospital. She will be going in to surgery around 1:00 this afternoon. She wanted to sleep so I am getting some food- not at the hospital.
     

    Attached Files:

  11. partdeux

    partdeux Well-Known Member

    4,586
    86
    48
    VD,

    Good luck with your struggles. I had my mom set up to succeed, until some "do gooders" intervened without knowing the entire situation and made things mucho mucho worse.

    We are starting to go through a similar situation with my in-laws :(
     
    Last edited: Mar 30, 2013
  12. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    Well, mom had her hip replaced. She is out of surgery and everything went well, sleeping off the anesthesia. I'll go back and see her tomorrow.
    Happy Easter all.
     
  13. MOshooter

    MOshooter New Member

    1,474
    0
    0
    Best wishes to your Mom for a fast recovery from her hip injury.
     
  14. winds-of-change

    winds-of-change The Balota's Staff Member

    29,442
    296
    83
    She'll be up and walking in just a few days. I'm not kidding. I'm glad it went well.
     
  15. F4U

    F4U Well-Known Member Supporter

    2,557
    65
    48
    Viking I did not intend to stick my nose where it doesn't belong, it was just that in grandmas case there were hard feelings and accusations among my dad and uncles that turned out to be unwarranted and really can't be taken back now.

    I hope she gets well soon, and push her to follow the physical therapists instructions to the letter. I did this last fall and my shoulder has way more motion than it did before I fell on it.
     
  16. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    No worries F4U.

    Update: I went over this morning and stayed most of the day (got home around 4:00). She ate a bit for lunch at my urging, but wouldn't have eaten had she not been urged to as she has no appetite yet. PT and OT came by and got her to sort of stand with a walker, but she did not take any steps. Perhaps tomorrow. She is still pretty disoriented from the anesthesia, I have to remind her where she is and why she is there every time she wakes up but that isn't too unusual. Tough to go through though. I hope she can't tell that it is difficult on me.

    I work tomorrow so I won't get over there until after work.

    My brother stopped by with his family after church. They stayed maybe 10 minutes. He said he will stop by this evening around 8:00. Not sure if he normally does hospital rounds on Sunday nights or not so maybe he is making a special trip.
     
  17. Steel_Talon

    Steel_Talon New Member

    1,766
    0
    0
    I wish her the best friend..... Unfortunately (esp. for women) the older we age the odds increase for this type of injury to occur. Even standing and taking a slight mis-step can cause one....

    Make sure the Doctor makes you aware of the complication that can arise from the repair and healing. She will need a lot of personal care and rehab.
     
  18. Vincine

    Vincine New Member

    3,495
    0
    0
    They've got hip surgeries pretty well figured out. The problem that occurs is that a senior’s ability to recuperate has become slower than the debilitating effects of hospitalization and inactivity. Then you get a falling domino effect and they never make it out of rehab and they become permanent NH residents.

    Get her up and moving asap, even if it's just a little bit at a time, frequently. Make it measurable; two steps, four steps, six steps, cartwheels, etc. The movement is necessary to help her shake off the anesthesia, which will take some time to work its way out of her system. At first it may be a good idea to medicate her half an hour or so before she goes dancing in the hall to reduce the pain, but not so much that she becomes nauseous, dizzy, or loopy.

    And check that all the tripping & falling hazards have been removed from her house. No small rugs, extension cords, and other stuff stacked on or running across the floors.
     
  19. Vikingdad

    Vikingdad New Member

    14,922
    0
    0
    Thanks Vincene. All good advice. I have been through elderly care (including a knee replacement) with my in-laws- both of whom are deceased a few years ago. With mom we moved her to my brothers a last spring, before which we prepped the place knowing it would be better to get it done before she moved.

    All but that damned door that contributed to this fall and my brother insisted that it was not an issue:mad:.
     
  20. orangello

    orangello New Member

    19,156
    0
    0
    Best wishes to your Mom her recovery!

    A sympathetic Kiss My Butt to the "don't intrude" crap . She's your mother; if your brother didn't want you intruding to visit her, he shouldn't have had her move in. Maybe you could get her some easy-care wind chimes and such instead of plants.

    As to the door, if it isn't repaired by the time she comes home, maybe you could lend a hand. Maybe you could add one of those gas piston things that closes the door for her. (the accountant part of me wonders what a door repair costs vs. the cost of a hip repair, just the monetary cost, sorry.)
     
    Last edited: Apr 1, 2013