Mandatory reporting of suspected child neglect or abuse

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by downsouth, Dec 13, 2011.

  1. downsouth

    downsouth New Member

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    In commitee, S1877
    Requires all adults to report suspected child abuse or neglect under penalty of law. Not just people who are trained in the matter, teachers, doctors first responders, but ALL ADULTS. So if little johnny throws a fit in walmart and you disipline him becareful. Or if you see little johnny get swatted on the behind and don't report it you may fall under the new law for noncompliance. I have no tolorence for anybody who mistreats kids but I don't think this is a good idea.
     
  2. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    Wait, so theoretically, if I whoop my kid's @$$, which he seriously needs from time to time, and my neighbors know about it but don't report it, they could be prosecuted too? That's a load of bravo sierra.
     

  3. ScottA

    ScottA FAA licensed bugsmasher Lifetime Supporter

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    If I find out someone is abusing a child, I'll report them in a heartbeat; but these kind of laws should only apply to professionals.
     
  4. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    It should just fall on any upstanding person who sees a child with two black eyes, instead it makes it against the law for us to mind our own business.

    Downsouth, do you have a link?
     
  5. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    It depends on who is doing the reporting. I've had people threaten to report me for spanking my kid. And the cold hard truth is, any accusation, no matter how unfounded, is investigated and causes undue hardship on the accused.

    All it takes is for someone to use the word "abuse". By the way, my experience in this comes from trying to help my neighbor out with that type of situation, so my word doesn't carry the weight of law.
     
  6. Jeepergeo

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    They want to expand this responsibility to everyone because the tax takers with the responsibility already (schools, teachers, social workers) have failed miserably to do their jobs.

    It will be really tough to enforce, but such a law would allow society to go after people like the wife of Sandusky who probably knew what was going on in between Sandusky and those kids in the basement of her home.
     
  7. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    Ah, point taken. They should both be hung.
     
  8. dmp

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    A kid throwing a tantrum is a better-indicator of 'abuse' or 'neglect'. Kids who have discipline problems often have parents who don't love them enough to set boundaries; nor take their jobs as parents seriously.
     
  9. PanBaccha

    PanBaccha New Member

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    There is a world of difference in 'abusing' a child, and in 'disciplining' the same.
     
  10. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    How many kids do you have?
    I only ask because I love my kid, I spend time with my kid, set boundaries, and I discipline him anytime he needs it. My mom did the same to me.

    Now I as a child, and my son too, have both been known to lose our cool and throw a total fit on occasions (he got a belt last night for said behavior, because he started screaming at me that he didn't want to do his homework)

    Does that indicate to you that me or my kid have been abused?

    That would be funny, considering the awards he gets in school, and the father of the year awards I got for our involvement in the community and his involvement in school functions. I know that's not what make a good parent, but I don't see an abusive parent taking the time to get to that point.

    And I'll tell any one, my mom was not abusive, even if I did lose my sh! T on several occasions as a kid.
     
  11. downsouth

    downsouth New Member

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    Point well taken. I got whumped, spanked, grounded and I'm better for it.
     
  12. H2oWerker

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    While a "kid throwing a tantrum"at be an indicator of an abusive parent/guardian. I would hardly consider that to be the likely cause.
    Children are, well, children, and aren't emotionally capable of dealing w/ many of life's situations. That's where a good parent comes in setting boundaries, limitations, and creating a secure nurturing environment. Sometimes this may involve some physical discipline (cause that's how you send an IMMEDIATE signal that some behavior will not be tolerated). Abuse is caused by a parents inability to control their own emotions.
    Legislating every adults responsibility to report "suspected abuse" to the authorities? That's a recipe for abuse right there...

    And Sanduskys wife? You might be surprised what type of behavior can be overlooked or misunderstood in a long term relationship. I would believe that she truly believes he is innocent. Because even if she understood the signs of what was happening her psyche may not have allowed her to accept that she married a MONSTER...
     
  13. dmp

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    Excellent.

    I was never allowed to throw a fit in public; nor were my kids. My kids have never had a melt-down. Worse they've done is be whiny. When my kids see brats they have whispered to me "...that kids mommy doesn't love them enough to give them a spankin', huh?"

    Permissive, weak parenting is abusive.

    Absolutely - setting boundaries. I'm saying neglecting to discipline a child IS abuse. It's a travesty. Frankly, I see more people who underestimate childrens' ability to control themselves. I hear it frequently "Oh...little johnny LIKES to watch Family Guy, so I let him. It's easier than telling him no and dealing with the fit he'll throw!" And, from a parent to a brat "You better stop that! Stop it. Right now! Look, I'm not telling you again...one!!! TWO!!!! THREE-Hey now...stop that right this instant!! ONE!!!"
     
  14. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    If you or your kids never threw a fit in public, that tells me one of three things, and I'm not trying to be negatively critical here, A. You don't remember it. B. You and your kids matured quicker than many. Or C. You and your parents were/are using different techniques than me or mine. No parent is perfect, and not many parents are exactly the same.

    I had not enough control of my anger until I was almost 20, but I knew very well what was acceptable behavior and what was not. My son just a few days ago had a total meltdown in walmart because he wanted a toy but I knew full well the same toy is already sitting under the christmas tree. I was able to point my finger at him and he shut up immediately.

    I didn't want to imply anything about you or your kids, but you didn't add any kind of extenuating circumstance to your other post, and I don't find a single tantrum indicative of abuse. It appears obvious to me that this is not exactly what you meant.
     
  15. dmp

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    maybe you and I differ on the definition of 'fit'? or 'meltdown'?

    I tried to write 'when kids have a meltdown in public it's more-credible evidence of 'abuse or neglect' than a parent spanking a kid when they need it. I think you're reading into what i wrote and trying to single out specifics, but the main point is - neglecting to enforce discipline lessons on kids is abusive in terms of 'failing a child'.

    If a parent's child meltsdown; if a kid can't control themselves - not talking about a kid being a kid, but the meltdowns we all see (google 'kid has meltdown at store'), it's a sign the kid is being neglected.
     
  16. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    Okay then, we're on the same page. Yes, I read too much into your previous post, or too little, depending on the angle and lighting.
     
  17. dmp

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    This is scary $H!T!! More nanny stating!

    I have to LMAO! My old man was not abusive by any stretch. He BEAT my @$$ on a daily basis. But i NEVER took a beating i didnt earn! ;)

    Another telling point...i aint never had an issue with the law in my 40+ years!

    To this day i DO NOT fear cops or courts. But i fear that hard nosed sumbiotch...and hes been dead nigh on 14 years!!

    OH! And the WORST @$$ whoopin's i ever took was from my momma!

    A LOT Of the problems with todays society is this kind of nanny stating and CPS.

    ::A story of a parents love::

    I am sure anyone with a "spirted" teenager can relate to this tale...

    Back during the summer months i told my daughter to do the dishes (thats her chore) she popped off on me. (for the record, shes NOT a bad kid or a problem child...its simply she and I are oil and water) I repeated the order. She went into a tantrum. I backhanded her in the mouth! (open hand, back of my fingers, fingers loose) The intent was NOT to hurt, but to drive home the point. She FREAKED, double handed me to the chest, set me back a step or two. (I was IMPRESSED, i am not a small or weak person and to have her skinny little 5'1" 100lb self knock me back was, well, impressive, made me proud...SILENTLY proud) Anywho, it was ON then, I exploded! Snatched her little insolent @$$ up, tossed over my shoulder and marched up the stairs with her kicking and screaming the whole way and plopped her, uncerimoniously in her bad and told her to STAY! Well, I am sure you can guess how that went over with my spirited child.:)

    I then MARCHED for my barn, grabbed a beer, did some deep breating excercises and tried to calm down!

    Maybe 15 minutes later, as i am sitting at my picinic table under the old hickory tree, i see a city cruiser pull up out front, out she hops with the officer. I see him point at the front steps and she sits down. He comes down and asks "Whats going on?" in an exasperated tone of voice. I then explain what had happened.

    We both go up front and he politely explains to her that where corporal punishment is NOT illegal in the state of IN and that as a father i have the right to discipline my children, she DOES NOT have the right to lay a hand on me. He then turns to me and asks "Sir, would you like for me to take her to ACJC (juvinile detention) for assault and battery?" (OHHHH i was sorely tempted) but i said "No. Its all good officer, no blood no foul." Really I was thinking i really didnt want this $H!T on my daughters record. He nods, knowingly (being a father himself) I thank him and apologize for this waste of his time, and he leaves.

    Well, it turns out it wasnt my daughter that called the law...it was her friends MOTHER that stuck her nose in where it didnt belong and caused the issue. After finding THAT out, i thought i SHOULD have sent her @$$ to juvenile jail! And then explained to my daughter that it was her FRIEND that got her put there! ;)

    Anwho, then i got a visit from CPS. I laughed at the dumb b!tch more than once, She says "What do you find so funny?" in her *****y attitude. I said "i find it funny that YOU are in MY house trying to tell ME how to run MY home!! YOU and YOUR agency are one of the myriad of problems in this country! These kids get disciplined and they decide they dont have to listen to those EVIL parents and just call you idiots! NOW, take that insolent girl and get her and yourself OUT of my house. Put her @$$ in foster care and see how well she likes living in a "loving home" like THAT" (my wife about collapsed when i said that) The nanny stater, taken aback by my bluntness, then said, "Sir, we're not in the buisiness of "snatch and grab" kids" I then said, "well then, our business here is DONE. GET OUT of my home!"

    Two weeks later i got a letter from CPS saying that the investigation was complete and found in favor of the father and no further action was required by the agency. :D

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    ANYWHO, where i do KNOW there actually ARE children at risk, and there IS a need for agencies like CPS. TOO often as with any and all Govt agencies, they take their power and control WAY beyond the original scope.

    This law is but another example. Every day a new law is introduced to make even less free!
     
    Last edited: Dec 14, 2011
  19. trip286

    trip286 New Member

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    I don't know about back handing, but I've seen the videos of one of your kids. Doesn't appear to be a child in an unhappy home.