Lost Art of Gentlemanly Virtue

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by Benning Boy, Oct 5, 2009.

  1. Benning Boy

    Benning Boy New Member

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    Let me preface by saying I start way too many threads, and need to slow down, I think. I'm going to try to limit myself to a "responding to others" role for awhile.

    That said, I feel that this may, by far, be the most important one I've ever done. We'll see.

    This is not a guys only thread. Indeed, input from the ladies is crucial here.

    I hope this runs awhile, and I hope the older gentlmen feel free to offer the majority of the input.

    You see, I notice a decline in manners. Not here, so much, but in society at large. People have forgotten, or more sadly, never had, simple manners. Holding doors, "Sir and Ma'am", and my God, table manners.

    We can blame liberated women for this, but if we were manly, we would hold a door no matter how much they objected, and maintain our manly stoicism.

    Common courtesy is no longer common, it's rare. What courtesies have we forgotten, and what will the wayward youth that stumbles across this thread learn, my friends?
     
  2. suprdave

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    My kids say sir and ma'am. I can not stand it when a kid says "huh" instead of sir to me. I know I'm young, but if I would have said that when I was his age I'd be picking myself up off of the ground. Wish it was "the good 'ole days". Just sayin'...
     

  3. Benning Boy

    Benning Boy New Member

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    A return to the good old days is what I'm shooting for. I know we won't change the world, but if a kid says "Sir", people are awed, then impressed.
    And that's sad.
     
  4. dunerunner

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    The youth lucky or smart enough to join this forum will learn plenty!! That said, here's the list:

    1. Saying "excuse me" when you bump into someone unintentionally.
    2. Excusing yourself when passing in front of someone at the grocery store who is trying to focus on the sh!t they're shopping for without their glasses on.
    3. Refering to your elders as Sir, Mr., Mrs. or Madam.
    4. Standing (on your feet) when a woman enters a room.
    5. Removing your hat when eating.
    6. Using your turn signals properly.
    7. Not talking with your mouth full of what ever you just took a bite of.
    8. Interrupting a conversation with an injected comment that has nothing to do with the original conversation, but it is more important for you to be the center of the discussion.
    9. Not mowing your yard or caring for you property because you're just too lasy and don't give a sh!t about what you're neighbors have to look at.
    10. Not taking credit for your actions and blaming society, your parents, wife, kids, the gold fish, the undercooked hamburger you ate or the crap on TV.
     
  5. Benning Boy

    Benning Boy New Member

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    Well done, Dune. Precisely what I'm talking about.
     
  6. Dillinger

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    Wear you god damn ball cap like it was supposed to be worn - as seen in the Major League.

    Pay attention when someone is talking to you - not half listening and texting away on your cell phone.

    GET OFF THE EFFING PHONE IF YOU ARE IN SORT OF LINE, FOR ANYTHING!

    Nobody cares the name that is on your underwear. Put on a god damn belt and cinch the thing just below your belly button, like god intended...

    Stop whining!

    Get the tackle box out of your face. You are not unique. You are not sticking it to the man. You are not special.

    Kurt Cobain is dead. Deal with it and move on you bunch of crybabies.

    Get the metal out of your mouth. Your parents did not pay good money for braces and dental care so you could smash up your teeth with some metal stud. You want eveyone to think you give good head, okay we get it. Just get a shirt or something.

    Proper English. Just enough to carry on a conversation, you don't have to be the Earl of Flatbush. Is that too much to ask??

    Give two sh!ts about property and material that doesn't belong to you.

    If you see some kid getting his brains bashed in on the bus or subway, don't sit there and cellphone the images, do something before the kid dies.

    Show some respect. You don't know everything. You don't know half what you think you do. And you aren't as fast, as tough or as witty as you think you are either.

    Stay in School.

    Welfare is for quitters and Eff ups! Get a job and be a responsible member of society to pathetic waste of flesh....

    Geez, kind of got off on my own personal Tango for a minute.....:eek:
     
  7. Jo da Plumbr

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    Things I try to remember to do.

    Walking on the traffic side as you and a lady walk down the street.

    Saying how nice she looks as you leave the house together.

    Smiling at strangers as you pass on the street.

    Dropping a dime in a parking meter when you see someone about to get a ticket.

    Picking up a piece of paper on the sidewalk and putting it in the trash.

    Clean up your dog’s sh1t when walking them.

    Thank the poor guy at the store for working on Thanksgiving as you buy the cranberry sauce she forgot.

    Take a plate of food to the homeless guy that lives under the over pass.
    (the girlfriend does this one)
     
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  8. Benning Boy

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    I may have been too fast, perhaps not so lost an art.:)
     
  9. CA357

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    Say please and thank you

    Pull out a lady's chair for her

    No cussin' in front of ladies

    Carry a handkerchief

    Bathe regularly

    One earring may be acceptable. More than that is ghey.

    Respect your elders

    All work is honorable, so get off your ass and get a job
     
  10. spittinfire

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    What is with kids now and the foul language...ALL THE TIME. When I'm in the shop with a couple of guys if you want to curse like a sailor I don't care but when I'm sitting in the Red Robin with my wife, surrounded by families with small children I don't want to hear it. More then once I've told some dumb a$$ed kid to watch his mouth only to get a deer in the headlights look because the retard has never been told no and had to process the fact someone was telling him that.

    Turn off the ipod, you don't need music 24/7, how about interacting with people for once.

    Kids, put down the video games when someone talks to you. I swear, every time a kid does that I want smack them in the back of the head.
     
  11. Benning Boy

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    Why do country boys/rednecks/whatever we call them in some degrading fashion get the rep that they're without manners, when in fact they seem to have the best manners and are oft times the hallmark of what a gentleman should be?
     
  12. CA357

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    Because the yuppie/liberal elitists snobbishly put down anything of true virtue.
     
  13. orangello

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    I've always thought that must be some kind of self-deprecating humor by remote thing. It should be pointed out that the reddest of the red have a rep for not caring for the "prettiness" of their yards; i think this has more to do with a rejection of others' ideals than a lack of interest in lawn maintenance or decorating.

    Personally, i don't consider myself a gentleman. I'm big on "function over form" as an ideal. I don't generally eat at places that would be appropriate for "table manners" or with anyone who would appreciate them. I view the video game/texter/ipod devotees similarly to the people who look at the ground to avoid eye contact; i don't mind if someone doesn't want to interact, so long as they stay out of the way of others. I do find myself referring to people as Mr. ___ or Mrs. ___ , even if the blank is a first name, hard-wired from youth.

    I think most of the appearance-related problems are more due to a generational gap than intentional disrespect or a comprehensive lack of care for one's appearance. I remember wearing torn jeans and having long hair in the '80's. I see no reason for a person to wear a suit in this day and age, unless they are attending a formal meeting of a group that expects such a costume (a sport coat and tie is not a suit).
     
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  14. cpttango30

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    Kids today are crap.

    I get some many supried looks and jaw hanging open in awe when I open and hold doors for women. I do it for young or old all the time.

    When you take a young lady out on a date you the guy pays the bill dosent disrespect her and pays for the movie and popcorn as well. You open the doors for her and you pull chairs out if you eat a nice restruant. You tip good and don't go leaving $2.09 as a dam tip because you want the bill to be $33.00 even. Your effing bank account is not even all the time. SO screw it give that person a nice $3 or $4 tip for working their azz off.

    TREAT PEOPLE AS YOU WANT TO BE TREATED.
     
  15. Benning Boy

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    I don't think women wait and hope that the guy will have manners, I think that they have never seen manners, also have no concept, and therefore don't miss them.
     
  16. spittinfire

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    Funny how easy it is to learn how to treat people. Golden rule works everytime.
     
  17. 1861

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    There is a big difference between a Redneck and Whitetrash . A Redneck does have manners , whitetrash don't .
     
  18. spittinfire

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    Rednecks, country folks, whatever you want to call them actually hold to many of the virtues this country was founded on. Part of that is the family unit and neighbors. They are taught how to treat people because they help each other and when it hits the fans, they need each other.
    Libtards don't need anyone but themselves. When it hits the fan for them, they want the government.
     
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  20. OlPainless

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    I shat you not, while at a company picnic a coworkers son held the door for my wife and I as we entered the dining area. Being thankful that a youngster (8-10ish) would have the common courtesy to hold the door for a lady I said something to the effect of "Quite the young Gentleman, Thank you." To which he replied "shut up, I ain't no *expletive for gay*".

    Now i'm still a young man but It still shocks the crap out of me when I see today's youth this far out of touch. Since when did Gentleman start translating to a homosexual? :mad: