How to get wife onboard?

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by fa35jsf, Apr 17, 2013.

  1. fa35jsf

    fa35jsf New Member

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    Some of y'all probably have to deal with this, some not. I am about to be married in a little over a month. My future wife is not afraid of guns and she has shot before, she is actually a good shot, and she recently got her CHL with me (although it was "against her will" haha). She really doesn't plan on ever carrying a gun. To her, guns are all the same. One gun fits all.

    But to me they are a hobby and fun to shoot. They have different uses. I want to buy an AR-15 and a 12ga pump shotgun for home defense. Now we have the money, and technically I could still buy it with "my" money since we aren't one yet, but I would feel terrible to go behind her back like that. Plus I caught a lot of flack when I bought an inexpensive pistol a few months ago without telling her first.

    I want to get these guns because 1) I have always wanted them 2) I am in the military and I want her to have something easier to handle then a pistol for at home. Plus, if I have both of my pistols with me then her only option right now is the .270 or a .22LR. Neither is optimal!

    So what kind of advice do y'all have for talking to a significant other to have a conversation about this? Any good tips or one liners?
     
  2. danf_fl

    danf_fl Retired Supporter

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    "What? This? Oh, I had that before we got married! Mom and Dad kept it for me."

    This will work for the first 3 years. After that, she might think that you are buying guns behind her back.
     

  3. PanBaccha

    PanBaccha New Member

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    In the larger picture purchasing firearms for home defense IS in her best interest, as far as safety goes. I would imagine if she'd agree having seen the big picture, the weight of her argument (..buying behind her back) would lose force. Congratulations on the upcoming marriage.
     
  4. fa35jsf

    fa35jsf New Member

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    haha. Unfortunately she is a little more bright than that. She pretty well knows what I got and ain't got.
     
  5. ccrow175

    ccrow175 New Member

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    Bring it up as an investment. Use the current inflation as an example. Precious metals fluctuate in price, but firearms don't depreciate much and always have a quick resale value. Show her prices 8 months ago compared to current. My fiance supports 100% knowing that what is in our safe could potentially keep us on our toes for over a year if we lost our jobs. Not only that, our world doesn't seem to be getting any more comfortable for the people. Some invest in silver, not me. You can't eat silver, and unless you have a really good throwing arm, you can't use it to hunt.
     
  6. DFlynt

    DFlynt New Member

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    Have her lean way over the side and then really rock the boat hard...Oh you said get her onboard, not overboard...my bad! :D

    OT PanBaccha's line of thought is probably your best bet.
     
  7. Kdub

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    My girl is the same way. I just tell her how important it is to me. She buys clothes every other day, I buy guns when I have the money. As long as you arent going into debt i think its reasonable. I save a little each check then buy when I have enough. If the woman says no no way I would be looking for one that supports your interests, or at least doesn't say no to you like a parent. Stand your ground, where the pants. I hope it doesnt get that far.
     
  8. Kdub

    Kdub New Member

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    Or I just pulled this one...I told the woman every day I don't buy a can of chew I get 5 dollars to spend on my hobbies. Day 1 down 5 in my pocket. We will see how long it lasts.
     
  9. HockaLouis

    HockaLouis New Member

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    U r already ahead of the game with this lady. Truly. U don't NEED the AR or Mossberg 500 Field/Security Combo tomorrow. U have a lifetime together -- may it be a long one and I hope your first child will be a masculine child. Get your AR for you anniversary (but buy the mags as soon as the price comes down which'll be in a few weeks). And remember: you can act like a man!
     
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  10. fa35jsf

    fa35jsf New Member

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    Thanks for all the great advice. I know I could just go out an buy the guns and I would in my opinion be well within my rights. However I am trying to start this marriage off right and include her and her opinions in big decisions, especially with money. It's about trust and not going behind her back. So I think I am going to play the security card and maybe the investment card.
     
  11. HockaLouis

    HockaLouis New Member

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    Oh dude, this is gonna be so embarrassing. You don't play chess do you? You already lost. Can I prep you? Others can add to the dialog that will only end with you saying some variation of "I want..."

    "How many guns do you NEED?" "How many guns can you shoot at one time." "Is it more important than [fill in the blank like furniture, car, vacation, new home, baby clothes, SHTF preparations...]?" "Shouldn't we just be saving some money?" "What makes you think the value will go up -- won't it be worth less as soon as you get it home?"
     
  12. fa35jsf

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    The main part she will focus on is the money part. Like I said, we both already have a healthy sum saved up, plenty so that this is not going to break the bank by any means. I have tried to explain that savings accounts are a good way to lose money each year due to inflation.
     
  13. MisterMcCool

    MisterMcCool Well-Known Member Supporter

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    You should check out some of the movies on Lifetime. Those men don't need permission for anything. ;)
     
  14. danf_fl

    danf_fl Retired Supporter

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    There is a difference of gathering gun and collecting guns.

    When younger, I tried to get as many as I could afford.
    Now, I try to get the ones I know will increase in value.

    (I've never heard of a Glock increasing in value, but a Korth revolver will.)
     
  15. eatmydust

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    My recommendation is to stand your ground.

    If it is as important to you as you say it is, let her know that this is a decision that you have made and hope to have her blessing on. Let her know that with or without her blessing, you intend to do what you see is the right and proper thing for you both.

    Unless you're talking about a $2k+ AR and a fancy-schmancy O/U shotgun, you can pull this off for around $1500 (not a major investment).

    Stand by your decision, show her your commitment and she will come around.

    God bless you both and your marriage, may it be long, loving and fruitful.
     
  16. stratrider

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    Butter her up with a gift just before you make your purchases? Get her something nice and then get what you want. :cool:
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  17. willshoum

    willshoum New Member

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    The break in period.............

    Treet her like a queen and a horse all in one....................;)
     
  18. nitestalker

    nitestalker New Member

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    Sorry "Babe" meet your replacement. She is a life member of the NRA.:D
     

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  19. Overkill0084

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    Yeah, but guns are very rarely what one could call a savvy investment. Recently, if you had high demand stuff prior to the gaggle, you could have made a killing. But from a long term perspective, very few guns are a "great investment." Much of the "growth" in firearms value isn't really much above inflation. Really good examples, like a pristine Python might be ahead of the game, Outside of a gungrabber panic, a garden variety AR-15 would be lucky to keep up with inflation.

    Since your in the military and you seem to have a surplus of money floating around, contact an investment company. There is very likely a First Command office near your base.