So the girlfriend sends me this link about what not to do on Valentines day, along with a note saying, "not that your doing anything wrong". Right; then why send me the link. 6 mistakes men make on Valentine's Day on Shine So I've done several of the things they say not to do, and now I'm more confused then ever. We've been together ten years and I'm supposed to start writing her poetry? What do you guys think? What do you do that seems to make your lady happy?