Girlfriend/wife issues/boyfriend/ husband issues with guns? haha

Discussion in 'The Club House' started by 94browninghunt, Feb 22, 2012.

  1. 94browninghunt

    94browninghunt New Member

    Anyone have the lady or guy in their life upset about the number of guns you own? My girl of one and a half year thinks shell limit me only to 1-2 or maximum of 3 rifles when we get married...idk how thats gonna go haha. How about you? and any tips on how i can persuade her that i should own more?
  2. texaswoodworker

    texaswoodworker New Member

    Nope, I'm hard-headed, so even if a gf/wife banned guns in the home, I would keep bringing them home anyways. :D

  3. rjd3282

    rjd3282 New Member

    Every married man should remember it's always easier to apologize later than it is to ask for permission. ;)
  4. BlueTurf

    BlueTurf New Member

    My wife doesn't have a problem with the number of guns I have, just the stuff I keep buying for them. I can never have enough ammo or reloading supplies.
  5. trip286

    trip286 New Member

    Limit her effing shoes, see what she has to say about that crap.

    My wife thought she was going to tell me "no guns allowed" and then it dawned on her that I was going to work everyday with a belt fed machine gun.

    Now the gun rules are common sense. Can we afford it? Is the rent/car payment/cable bill/electric bill/insurance payment/ due? Will it put us in a bind?

    Just like other wants vs needs expenses, as long as it doesn't hurt us financially, I'm free to get any gun I want.

    The reason I only have three is because I'm always broke... Not because the wifey says no...
  6. JTJ

    JTJ Well-Known Member Supporter

    I would be looking for a new girlfriend. Preferably at the shooting range. It is not going to last if she is making all the rules so save yourself some future grief and dont waste your time. She at least gave you a warning and the alarm bells should be going off. We have been married 46 years and I dont ask permission or apologize when I bring home a gun. I do not however spend money we dont have on one and I handle the finances.
    Men marry women expecting them not to change, and they do. Women marry men expecting them to change and they dont.
  7. Overkill0084

    Overkill0084 Active Member

    Seems to me that's the sort of thing that need s to be Ironed out prior to exchanging vows. For years, I couldn't really afford to indulge in the firearms hobby, see the pay scale for enlisted military. Other things took priority. My wife wasn't anti gun, just kind of skeptical. I've managed to get her on board. While not a hobbyist, she will come with me to the range now & then and enjoy herself.
  8. partdeux

    partdeux Well-Known Member

    SWMBO has more firearms than I do :)

    But, financial non agreements can lead to tough discussions, aka fights. Get it resolved, listen AND UNDERSTAND her reasons. At a different time have a calm discussion about just one of her points.
  9. masterPsmith

    masterPsmith New Member

    I would be looking fo someone else or convert her by letting her buy what she wants to shoot, if she is into shooting. I could not see giving-up 70+ guns of mine for anyone...........My guns were there first........

    Last edited: Feb 22, 2012
  10. fmj

    fmj Active Member

    This is too damn simple. Start the debate and win it. YOU have the facts on YOUR side. after calmly and logically shooting down every last "reason" she has for her stupidity, challenge her to go to the range and get her started shooting. Start small, slow and easy and work your way up. Soon enough you will have a wife (to be) thats as enthusiastic about firearms as you.

    $H!T, my ole lady "didnt care for" guns when we met 24 years ago today. Today she has laid claim to me 1911and Ruger .44 mag carbine. She shoots proficiently with the ole Win 61 and my S&W 686. The only reason she hasnt laid claim to the rest is shes a bit skeptical about touching off the big dogs...God help me she ever grows the chesticles to try my 06 on for size....i fully expect she will be laying claim to my AR shortly after it comes home in March. :rolleyes:

    Its a double edged dagger!
  11. danf_fl

    danf_fl Retired Supporter

    That sounds like a little education is needed.

    Use a sledge hammer next time she wants a picture hung. Explain that just as different hammers are needed for different jobs, so goes the firearms. Different firearms are for different tasks.

    (You did explain that already, no?)
  12. vincent

    vincent New Member

    Take her to the range, show her how much fun and challenging it is to might have to go shoe shopping with her but that's a pretty fair trade off...

    (edit) No cheauvanism intended to our beloved female members, just making a comparison...
  13. Rick1967

    Rick1967 Well-Known Member

    Heck my wife gives me guns or reloading stuff every Christmas. This last year she didn't know what to get. So she gave me a Really expensive set of binoculars, a razor sharp buck hunting knife and a wyoming saw. I guess she supports my hunting activities now too. I good woman is something to be cherished!!!!!
  14. Charyoutree

    Charyoutree New Member

    Honestly...if she feels that strongly and is already setting things up to change you, you need to find a new person to share your life. Take it from someone who lost 3/4 of everything just to get away from such a harridan--it's not worth it!

    Life's too short to spend it fighting on the home front for your right to enjoy good tobacco, good whisky, and good firearms (although, not at the same time!). Just like it is unfair of her to try to change you, it is unfair of you to try to change her. If you can't come to an accommodation that both can accept and be happy with, part ways on good terms and find someone who shares your interests as much as you do.

    Quis custodiet ipsos custodes? (Who watches the watchers?) --"Satires", Juvenal (Roman poet)
    Last edited: Feb 22, 2012
  15. bkt

    bkt New Member

    I got into firearms after I got married and there was some friction at first. All I had to do was tell my wife "I will not let you prevent me from doing what I believe is necessary to protect our family". There wasn't much she could argue with about that.

    The best thing you could do is get your significant other out shooting. Most folks enjoy the heck out of it once they do it and they will want MORE guns. :D
  16. Renodog

    Renodog New Member

    Luckily my father-in-law has three safes full of guns and goes to a gunshow at least every other weekend. My wife never had a chance...
  17. orangello

    orangello New Member

    {snaps fingers} Dang! Now why didn't i think of that before. I gotta start shooting at a range. Any advice on how to spot loosely moralled women at a range? Maybe look for the girl with a Jennings or a Hi-Point? If she will play with one of those then... :D ;)

    Pre-nup material for sure!

    Being single is probably the smart move for me. ;)
  18. c3shooter

    c3shooter Administrator Staff Member

    Gello- you start looking for the girl that has better guns than YOU do!!

    Called marrying up.

    Serious advice to the OP- this is the sort of thing you need to get sorted out. No, am not going to suggest the Neanderthal approach- that rarely works in real life. But DO take her shooting with you. Even if SHE does not wind up digging it (and she very well may) she SHOULD appreciate what it means to you- as YOU should appreciate the things that are important to her. If you two cannot do that to give each their space, my crystal ball sees strife, misery, and anxiety ahead.

    I bought my lady rubies- because I love the look on her face when she puts them on. She once gave me an Othello Red Dot throwing knife (Solingen, Germany) because she knows I like stuff like that. Called being happy by making each other happy.
  19. JTJ

    JTJ Well-Known Member Supporter

    Orangello: C3 is right. Just be subtle and dont drool all over her guns. Compliment her guns while not looking at her chest.;) better yet, find one that works in a gun shop.
  20. Maria

    Maria New Member