Just bought a box of federal HST 230+p for my glock 21. They cost 25.99/box of 50. Should I use these for home defense or should I go a step down on the grain? And are Speer gold dots good too? In both 45 and 9mm what grain should I use? I think I will only stick with Speer gold dots and HST because I never heard anything bad about them. Possibly hornady crit def or TAP. Any feedback on those also would be appreciated. Thanks guys.