Nothing wrong with starting out with pistols. I started with a 58 Remington at the ripe old age of 12. That forum has a lot of knowledgeable people and a lot of information but it's a big ol clique of older members and a lot of jerks. I don't go there anymore. Neither do a lot of other people.Boys start with rifles, stay the heck away from revolvers.
This si where the flatlanders should start.
Come on over to where the big boys hang out
You can overload a brass frame .44. It won't blow up but after awhile you'll see the imprint of the cylinder ratchet in the recoil shield. It's not necessary to clean one immediately after shooting. You can wait a day or two with no problems. Just don't go a month without cleaning. It's also not necessary to tear one completely down to clean. I only tear mine completely down maybe once a year if I think about it. The actions do get a good dunking in hot soapy water tho.Damn near impossible to "over load" a black powder gun. That's physics. But you need to learn how to clean them. Seen a lot of screwed up black powder guns because they didn't get cleaned. Revolvers get disassembled down to THE LAST SCREW, and washed, greased, reassembled.