Best gun for my scarety cat wife?

Discussion in 'Concealed Carrying & Personal Protection' started by sausn2002, Aug 18, 2009.

  1. sausn2002

    sausn2002 New Member

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    My wife is less than 100 pounds and about 5 feet. I think she's shining up to gun shooting...a little. It's hard to get her to the range, and maybe it will be better next time when I have her shoot my .32 pocket NAA pistol. Last time I had her shoot my .40 caliber full size Glock. Maybe that was a little too much. Usually I can shoot anything, even a .50 caliber pistol, and it won't phase me one bit, so it's hard for me to tell how it feels to my wife.

    Anyways, I know there is stun guns and pepper spray out there, but I would feel more comfortable knowing my wife can defend herself with something like a concealed gun, or even better be able to function the guns in the house safely and efficiently enough to take bad guys out.

    Okay, now to what I'm asking. What is a good gun that she could handle that would have enough stopping power to give me confidence that she would be alright in a situation? I'm talking about pistol, shotgun, whatever; nothing specific. Chances are no one would take her seriously anyways, and would be off their guard to begin with, which would give my wife an advantage.

    Anyways, let me know what your thoughts are on this guys. I'd love to hear your opinions.:)
     
  2. Shotgun Shooter

    Shotgun Shooter New Member

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    Well, first off you need to make sure she wants it, not just because you want her to. Second, she'll need to go hold some. She sounds extremely tiny and I'm at elast 2.5x her weight. So, what would work for me definitely wouldnt work for her.

    Now, go to the gun store, see what she likes/you can afford. ;)

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  3. OC357

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    What about trying a .22 revolver first and then working up in caliber??? Maybe she will get the feel of it better that way if she never shot before.

    Just a thought.

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  4. CA357

    CA357 New Member Supporter

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    Have her check out something like a Bersa or a Walther in .380. The Bersa Thunder is a great little inexpensive pistol and recoil should be easy for her to handle. Another suggestion is a CZ82 in 9 Makarov. They can be had for around $200.+/- and shoot the more powerful Makarov round. Yet, it's still a small and manageable caliber.

    Let her handle different handguns and tell you which feel best. Make sure she starts out with something she can handle and can enjoy shooting or you may sour her on the whole deal. This isn't the time to be macho, this is the time to pay attention to her. Then make sure she gets excellent instruction.

    I have to say that if she wants a semiauto you should really go the Bersa or Walther route. A .22 isn't the best defensive round. A .380 isn't all that great either, but it's a proven round and it will work. 9 Mak, even better.

    The main thing is that she practices with it and gains confidence. It's better for her to have a smaller caliber and be able to shoot it confidently than to have something larger that she is scared of and won't shoot.

    Good luck. Some years ago I made the mistake of buying my wife a handgun. Big, big mistake. I now pass this man wisdom on to you. ;)
     
  5. sausn2002

    sausn2002 New Member

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    I actually thought of the revolver, because I heard alot of first time shooters use those out of it's sure simplicity. The mechanics are very easy to understand and on a smaller caliber model, the way the handle is shaped is good for handling (this is my opinion). I'll give this all a try. I think I'll rent something small at the range for her to try out and see how she is comfortable. I can always buy her some Pepper Spray, lol. I'm not really pushing her, it's just what I wish, but it's not a super big deal. She's been to the range before, it's just not her cup of tea.
     
  6. spittinfire

    spittinfire New Member Supporter

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    I don't know this to be the case but....I think she is afraid. Get her something she can shoot comfortably. I started my wife with 22's and she had fun. I soon moved her up to some light 38's I had hand loaded. After that, she was off. She now shoots 38 Special 125 +p with no problems, 3" group at 10 yards out of an SP101 with a 2 1/4" barrel. I tried to move her into 9mm but she didn't like the action of a semi auto. I feel my wife is well protected in the event that I'm not home.
    We go on shooting trips together, driving to some land and shooting there. She enjoys it and so do I. Get her something that she can shoot comfortably and build her confidence. Build her up, move her SLOWLY into a larger caliber. My wife shoots a small 38 very well but she didn't start out there.
     
  7. sausn2002

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    I didn't know the Makarov was easy to handle? What about recoil? That's an excellent suggestion. Very good pistol.

    Very great advice in your reply, CA. I will take heed.
     
  8. ChuckD

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    I'd warm her up to the idea of shooting by letting her shoot a small caliber handgun with limited recoil, a 22LR pistol would be perfect for this. I saw a lady walk off the range earlier this year because the gun she was shooting kicked too much, it was her first time and she was not comfortable with it. She didn't want anything to do with for the rest of the time of saw her there.

    Good luck!

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  9. sausn2002

    sausn2002 New Member

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    My wife has agreed to go to the range, and she simply said yes. I think it's because I told her that when we go, we'll rent a gun (not use one of mine), and I told her she could take her time holding different pistols and see what she likes. I told her that she could shoot a much smaller caliber first and then work her way up. It worked! She has shot before, like I said, and took it like a champ (a 40 caliber Glock I have), but like I said at the beginning of the thread, she didn't have any encouragement to go to the range after that. Now that I suggested she take her time at it and work her way up, it's good. I guess before I just simply took her to the range and had her fire what I had right away, when I should have moved her slowly up the ladder on pistols with patience. It's all good now. Thanks, guys.
     
  10. sausn2002

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    Then maybe I'll have an excuse to buy a Makarov, LOL!;) I'll let her have it as a concealment gun though, but only as long as I feel she can do it safely. I'm a Gunner's Mate in the Navy after all, and teach people how to use firearms safely and efficiently.
     
  11. Gojubrian

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    Once she's warmed up to shooting she'll be able to handle larger calibers no problem.

    I'd look into a carry 1911 in 9mm. :)
     
  12. gorknoids

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    Got to Superior Pawn & Gun on Virginia Beach Boulevard, and talk to anyone upstairs at the range. Find out what Rosie's schedule is, and set up a session with her. She's a family friend, truly knows her stuff, and promotes the fun of shooting. I knew her for years before ever shooting with her, and if there's anyone who can be a shooting buddy before being a shooting coach, it's her.
    They have a great selection of rentals, and the prices can't be beat (Unless you go to Camp Allen, but you don't get Rosie there) and on Saturdays you can get free hotdogs. Life is good.
     
  13. WDB

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    If your wife is open minded to owning a pistol the best thing to do is find a local range that rest pistols and also offers training. Have her take a basic gun course and then a personal defense class. Trust me it works. My girlfriend went to the range with me often, she shot my pistols, and I did my best to teach her, we rented different pistols and again I tried to teach her to no avail, a year of frustration for both of us. Last Christmas she gave me a copy of her consealed carry license and showed me her G27. She got the message that I thought it was important she learned to shoot and defend herself. In the kindest way possible she showed me that she couldn't learn from me. It didn't bruis my ego at all, there is a reason firearm instructors get paid well for what they do, they are far more objective to the students needs than a mate could be. Latter my daughter went though the same training and bugs me often to go to the range. Before she would never go.

    My only regret is there firearm of choice is a Glock 27. It doesn't fit me but they both shoot them well and will carry them. So I'm happy.
     
  14. FAS1

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    My wife also at times considers having a gun. When she's around me she feels safe, but at times when she's not with me the idea comes up. She has shot all my guns in the past and still is akward with a semi-auto. I think under duress she would be better with the simplicity of a revolver. Probably something fairly small and light, but at least .32 cal.
     
  15. cpttango30

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    I would rather have my wife armed with a 22 that she likes and can hit with than a hand cannon that she is scared of and can't hit schitt with.

    10 22lr center mass is better than 10 9mm that don't hit anything but walls.

    First thing to do is get a darn 22 pistol. Browning, Ruger, Beretta Neos and many others out there are good. Don't go and get some tiny tacticool crap to start with. Get a decent plinker like the Ruger MkIII with a 5.5" barrel.

    Do what Gorknoids said to do. Get a female instructor or find her a class that is for ladies only. They are more open to shooting if other women are there or teaching. Men can and will be aholes a lot just look on youtube for women shooting.

    When my grandfather died my grandmother come over and said I need a gun not a big one just one I can shoot and load. My dad side here try this. haded her a derringer in 22lr. 2 shots. She took it out loaded it and shot it twice at a target. she could hit a 10" plate at 10' that was great. She said "Two shots is all i need, 1 in the face 1 in the balls". I tell you what she would do it too.
     
  16. sausn2002

    sausn2002 New Member

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    That's exactly what I was thinking. A .32 Revolver. I figure .32 would be as low as I would go (it's not near as good as the big three: 9, 40, and 45, but it's enough defense in most situations, mostly because of the advances in ammunition).

    I think it's got to be a Revolver, because I also would want her to be able to clean her own gun. At least Revolvers have very good track records when it comes to reliability. I don't like them personally, but I'll see if she goes for it when she tries it out.:rolleyes:
     
  17. sausn2002

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    Yes, a female instructor. I don't think I'm a good teacher when it comes to regular females, so I should ask a female at the gun range to help out. Males and Females in the Navy are what I teach firearms to, but they have a completely different mindset, because they know what they signed up for, at least I wish that was the case 100% of the time. Regular (I'm using the word regular because some people get offended at the word civilian for some reason) Males tend to be fine too, but not all of them.
     
  18. dunerunner

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    .22 is the smartest option to start. Low recoil, cheap/available ammo, relatively inexpensive weapon! The Walther P22 would fall in the criteria but any Quality made .22 pistol would be a perfect starting point.
     
  19. sausn2002

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    Last time I was in the range, I saw a woman looking at one of those Walthers. I may even shoot it myself to check it out. I've hated Walther's in the past, because I shot one that gave me a very bad cut. It's hard to hold those without getting injured badly. You know what I mean? The slide on it. It was a smaller model.
     
  20. skullcrusher

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    If your wife does not like guns, leave it at that. If it is hard to get her to go to the range, she is telling you something. Teach her how to safely use one just in case of a home invasion. Buying her one and putting her through the ringers might put unneeded strain on your relationship. Plus, it could end up being a waste of money. Jmho.

    The last thing you want is for her to gripe to her friends about how you force her to shoot guns.

    BTW, how long have you been married?