K so i finally figured out what gun I want which your gonna laugh if you saw sr9 vs beretta 92fs....I'm getting a xdm which i would love to hear your opion on...anyways i want a 9 was thinking 45 but can't afford and think that 9 would be better for range & defence aleast for price. plus with the xdm it's 19 +1. so now all i need is some help figureing out what you guys think is the best defence ammo. so again thanks for the input guys. The reason i want a xdm is the fact that it's the perfect stater kit in one purchase...two clips and holder, mag loader, holster, brush, lock, nice case and of course gun. i love the feel of sr9 but think the xdm is the better choice. Have'nt shot it yet but have held it and it feels great... like the choice of back straps, and hear take down is easy. Don't know every thing i want to know about it but maybe you guys can fill in the gaps. I did see that there is a fourm just for xd but want everyone input not just xd lovers, SSSSOOO lets hear it.