Originally Posted by jackrich3
What I saw in that NJ man was an intense frustration that a lot of NJ people feel, when their choices are, cut and run, as I did, or go tilting windmills, as he is doing. Maybe, because of family obligations, he can't afford to run. It was easy for me, not having family or kids to worry about. But I can tell you that man is just shouting into a hurricane. It's tough to watch.
Yes it is tough to watch but consider this...
My career involves negotiating construction contracts and change orders. What that means is both small and large businesses discussing BIG dollars and doing so with a mix of "owners" who's very homes may be on the line and "hired guns"... managers who are well paid to represent their companies interests.
Rule #1 of ANY negation is: The first one to "lose there cool" loses the debate. PERIOD... end of story.
Right or Wrong, Fair or Unfair, NEVER enters the equation.
Does not matter if your negotiating across a board room table, across the hood of an LEO's cruiser, or across the witness/comment table at a political hearing.
Passion is an admirable trait in a fight... but mistaking a debate, for an actual fight, is a critical error and will guarantee a fight ensues once diplomacy officially fails.
So... How do you tell he difference between a fight and a debate? Simple... When gun play ensues... The debate is over. It's now time to lay down and shut up, or take aim, either way, your done talking... so pick the course of action you can live with and give it everything you've got.