I have an XD 40 and I highly recommend it. It kicks about the same compared to most 9mm weapons I've fired.
Remember, the best weapon you can carry is the one you can afford to also keep ammo for. I mean sure owning a Nighthawk 1911 would be awesome, but not if you spend all your money on that and can't afford to ever shoot it.
"This is not about land or money...but the one thing that no man should never be able to take from another man: the freedom to make his own choices about his life, where he'll live, how he'll live, how he'll raise his family. "
William Travis, The Alamo: 13 Days to Glory