As you are not a re-loader, look at one of the 44 Special loadings. Hornady has a nice 180 grain JHP XT that will stand a better chance of less over penetration yet provide adequate stopping power for home use.
Heavy bullets tend to plow on through, that's penetration of walls. Higher velocity loads are good for expanding the bullet and lessen the penetration.
I suggest you go with a 45ACP over a revolver in 44 cal. Faster reloads, faster follow up shots, less effects on the people next door or across the street.
Think about reloading. That will open up an entire world to you.