I have a female friend who,2 years ago, was deathly afraid of guns. Divorced. From an abusive corrupt cop who beat her and threatened her with his gun. Every man in her life had told her she was a stupid female and incapable of shooting a gun - even though she asked many to take her shooting.
Enter me - have had guns for many years - but was very inactive. Showed her a couple guns. She was afraid to even touch them!
She eventually suggested going shooting - I took her - taught her to shoot. She did great! She is a good shot! Boosted her ego tremendously!
She and I took the ccw class. She had the best groups in the class! Then bought a series of guns. (you know how it is - searching for the perfect gun...
She now owns four guns! A 357 colt Trooper (her first gun), 38 Special S&W Airweight, Ruger LCP 380, and an M&P 22 as a range gun!
I own similar - but go up into 9mm cal also.
When we go places, she wants to know if I am armed - often times she is. She wants to know - feels safer. This from two years ago being terrified of guns.
They can change... If they stay current on the news. And a big one - if they learn to shoot, themselves... and become very comfortable around guns and understand how the guns work - their shortcomings - safeties - fallibility of safeties, trigger pulls - safe ones versus touchy ones.. i.e. learning a lot about different guns and how they work - what is truly safe versus what is popular.
They can change - when they become truly competent - not just a shadow of someone else and someone else's opinions - which may be flawed...
I hope it works out for you - because truthfully - it is nice to have someone with you that also is watching out for the bad guy and is prepared and is capable...