Right now ive got awc 230grn hollowpoints in my xdm45 and colt new agent. Ive got 95grn fmj in my bersa thunder 380. My wife is using 115grn hornady critical defense in her xdm 9mm.
I just use whatever is available in a 230 grain hp for 45. Expansion is just a bonus i dont rely on it to happen. I tend to cycle out my sd ammo about once a year.
I use fmj in my 380 because i want to be certain it gets deep enough through bone and clothing to hit the vitals.
"Gun control: The theory that a woman found dead in an alley, raped and strangled with her panty hose, is somehow morally superior to a woman explaining to police how her attacker got that fatal bullet wound." L. Neil Smith
The problem with being stupid is you cannot simply decide to stop doing dumb things...