I would recommend the LCR as well. Get the 357 because it is slightly heavier so less recoil with the 38 rounds. Then just carry it with the 38s. This is what my wife does who was recoil shy also. In the LCR the recoil is very manageable with those grips, more so than the S&W. My wife shot 200 rounds the other day at the range with it and had a blast. She was hesitant at first, but once she started she had a lot of fun. Some people will disagree with me on this, but I recommend shooting while slowly walking forward if your really recoil sensitive, as it takes your mind off the recoil. You won't be very accurate, but you can get confident in your ability to handle the recoil.