i love my xdm. my main ccw is a xdm compact in 45acp 13+1 and comes with a shorty 9+1mag if printing issues need to be avoided.
i really like the grip safety which requires your paw to be gripping the gun for it to go off. the slightly wider backstrap distributes the recoil very well making it a really fast gun for followups.
the 9mm xdm come in 19+1 capacity which is really tempting
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