Ok went to 2 gun shops today and think I have it narrowed down.
FNP9, CZ75BD, and sig SP2022. All are 9mm.
I don't know much about FN, customer service. The de-cocker and safety feels like it is to easy to move. It is lite and fells great in the hand.
CZ is metal, feels good in the hand, have to reach to release the slide(short thumbs).
Sig is a little bulky in the hand but has other grips that come with it. Has light. Holds 10 rounds
Heard mostly good and some bad but if you dig you can find bad in every gun.
The FN is in the middle CZ is highest are priced very close, the Sig is lowest. $100 separates lowest and highest.
Interested in what others have to say but I think I know what one I am buying.