How about if you both head to your favorite gun shop and she shops around for a while? If she can handle a bunch of different handguns, it may narrow things down a bit. After she finds one or several, see if she can shoot them or something close to get a feel for it/them. I wish her well in her search.
And look for a range that will let you rent them to shoot there.
Ya I've TRIED and TRIED TO EXPLAIN THAT to my wife, but she is just more comfortable carrying a gun that has a safety.
I feel your pain. I went through the same thing. Luckily for me, when I took her to the gun shop and she held the Rossi she liked the feel of it so much all objections about not having a safety went out the window. The best part was that it wasn't available in pink so now I can shoot it too! Hahaha. I might be very secure in my manhood but there is no way I am taking a pink gun to the range.
I would not pay it any more attention. She will see a pistol she has to have and buy it. My wife bought a SP101 and it has ended up being a dust catcher. I have a Charter that I prefer to carry and she likes the light weight of the Kel Tec pistols.
My hunting buddies wife just bought a 32 cal Kel Tec. She has a hard time with a P-3AT so she got a 32. It is better than the 22/45 Ruger she was carrying. I have to admit the P-3AT is not fun to shoot. I like shooting magnum pistols. Yet I wear gloves when I shoot a tiny 380 made by anyone. They have as much perceived recoil as a 357 and I get clipped by the slide quite often.
My wife has a Taurus 85 .38 special an loves it, but we just bought her a Ruger LCP, because she wants to carry on her body, not in her purse. I prefer a revolver for a woman, but I prefer them to carry it on them and not in their purse. My wife can't conceal a revolver so we had to find a compromise. The Sig P938's are sweet guns with safeties.