My wife was scared as well. Over time I slowly explained SAFTEY to her. Explained things to her, answered questions etc. before I let her handle one. She got hands on time unloaded of course. Learned how they worked, answered more questions. Eventually worked up to going shooting. I fired her .22 first so she saw the operation etc, knew what noise would become of it. Then went through SAFTEY again and let her shoulder it unloaded, went through the firing procedure unloaded. Let her become comfortable, then let her shoot. Now she wants to learn to shoot pistols and get her CCDW. Just time my friend.
And I saw heaven opened, and behold a white horse; and he that sat upon him was called Faithful and True, and in righteousness he doth judge and make war.