Originally Posted by BigO01
With your situation a shotgun is the worst choice of a weapon you could make....
Unlike the majority here, I think the shotgun is a rather poor home defense weapon.
It's not a weapon that you will have on you all the time.
It's not a weapon that you will likely have quick access to while sitting around the dinner table or when watching TV in the living room or when using the bathroom.
A long weapon is much more difficult to wield when moving from room to room and checking doors, windows, closets, etc....especially when possibly also managing children.
Ammo is bulky and carrying extra ammo can be difficult.
A handgun is a much better home defense weapon IMO.
It's the weapon that you can have on your side at all times....whether you're using the bathroom, walking the dog, sitting on the front porch swing with your wife, lounging by the pool, or just checking the mailbox.
You can answer your front door while discretely holding a handgun behind the door, and the visitor will never even know that you're armed.
And you can take it with you when you're out of town and staying in a hotel or motel (your home away from home could need defending too).
And with the handgun on your side, you will know that your children can't fool around with it.
The bottom line is that if someone kicks in your door and rushes in, you're simply will not have time to run in to another room and get the shotgun.
So forget a rifle or shotgun as your primary home defense weapon.
Now, what handgun to get....
Revolvers have a few advantages over autoloaders:
Overall, they are less likely to have a "jam" or a failure to fire.
They can be loaded and then forgotten about for decades but will still work just fine when needed.
They are very easy to load and unload.
If you like revolvers, but are on a tight budget, then I recommend you check out Ruger.
Specifically, a 3" or 4.2" Ruger GP100
or a 3" Ruger SP101
, both in .357 magnum.
On the other hand, autoloaders have a few advantages over revolvers:
They typically have a greater number of rounds that can be fired before reloading.
With a second full magazine they are very quick to reload, even for a novice.
The trigger pull of most autos is much lighter than the heavy double-action trigger pull of a revolver....which equals much better accuracy for most novices just learning to shoot.
But beware...autos are much more likely to "jam" than a revolver.
If you carry one you must practice clearing a failure-to-feed and a failure-to-eject and a failure-to-cycle.
If you like autos, and you're on a tight budget, then I recommend that you check out CZ pistols and the Springfield XD pistols.
Specifically the 9mm CZ P-01
or the 9mm CZ 75D PCR Compact
, or the Springfield Armory 9mm XD9
or the 9mm XD9compact
No matter what you choose, teach your wife to shoot even if she doesn't want to.
You could somehow become incapacitated and then the defense of you and your family would be in her hands alone.
And when you're not carrying the weapon on your side, keep it LOCKED
Good luck and safe shooting.