I *showed* my wife several different options (internet and magazine pictures) and we discussed the pros and cons for CCW and her needs. I wouldn't call her a dedicated shooter, but she was raised with all types of weapons and can throw a mean tomahawk.
She's a good shot with several types of firearms.
She said "I want a revolver."
I said "ok, how about this one?" (I showed her a S&W Centennial Airweight, J-frame, 5-shot .38SPL rated +P, hammerless DAO)
She said "That's the one I want."
I said "ok."
...literally 3 minutes later I found a smokin' BIN deal on GB and had it bought.
I got her some light target loads for practice and a cushy Pachmayer grip but it still bruises the web area of her hand pretty good.
She also struggles with the DA trigger pull (as do many).
Might have to suggest the 2-finger pull as mentioned above.
She said "I'm gonna get it - I'm not giving up - don't you dare sell it!"
God love her.
She just passed her CCW qualification yesterday with an XD9 but it's too big to carry (for her).
If she ultimately gives up (she's stubborn!) I'm leaning toward steering her to a 9mm Kahr or Ruger as mentioned above...time will tell.
Good luck with the Missus Mr. Wray.