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Old 12-01-2011, 12:38 AM   #1
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I want to get my wife a hand gun for self defense, but I'm not sure if I should get her a 9mm or .380. All my friends tell me to get her a 9 because it's bigger. My main concern is that she won't be able to handle the recoil. Would the .380 be enough or should I stick with the plan to get her a 9mm?

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Old 12-01-2011, 12:40 AM   #2
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I want to get my wife a hand gun for self defense, but I'm not sure if I should get her a 9mm or .380. All my friends tell me to get her a 9 because it's bigger. My main concern is that she won't be able to handle the recoil. Would the .380 be enough or should I stick with the plan to get her a 9mm?
Started my wife on a 380- She quickly went to a 9mm & now dearly loves her Ruger SR9C - She said she really cudn't tell much difference in recoil -
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Do you have a range nearby that rents guns? If so, go there and have her try them for herself, she can tell you better than any of us. Good form and fundamentals will overcome any percieved recoil. A few of our esteemed female forum members shoot the bigger calibers with no problems.

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Vincent and Hoss are spot on. The only thing I have to add is take her to some local gunshops and let her "try out" the various firearms they have in their inventory.

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I would add ( and I'm no expert ) but in my opinion and my wife's. Try a .45, the recoil on comparable size guns (9mm & .45) feels the same to us. We went .45 for that reason alone. She loves the bigger round.

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How much training does your wife have?
Knowing the proper hold, stance, and safety matters is more important than what caliber.

I taught my niece when she was 12 (yes, I'm NRA certified). She likes to pick up a gun and shoot 2X4's at 50 yards with a .45ACP.

At the time, she was about 5 foot and skinny as a rail. 95lbs soaking wet.

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I want to get my wife a hand gun for self defense, but I'm not sure if I should get her a 9mm or .380. All my friends tell me to get her a 9 because it's bigger. My main concern is that she won't be able to handle the recoil. Would the .380 be enough or should I stick with the plan to get her a 9mm?
She has to try out some guns, and SHE must decide what works for her. Forget all the hype about caliber, knock-down, etc. The caliber simply doesn't matter it she doesn't like it, and doesn't use it.

Been there, done that, with my wife... and she ended up liking my Smith & Wesson Model 60 (.357 Mag) best.

Ya' gotta' let her decide...
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I am a firm believer in the KISS approach.

Unless she is willing to spend enough time to fully understand the pre-fire operation of an automatic and commit it to muscle memory, I would get a revolver for HD.

my reasoning is simple: The 'panic' reaction of an untrained shooter is simply "point and pull" - for an automatic, depending on the condition it is stored, that may or may not result in a discharge. For a simple Da revolver that has no need to check the status of the safety, magazine, or a need to chamber a round, it will result in a sucessful firing and if it truely is needed in a HD situation, the seconds saved may be critical.


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Bought mine a hammerless SW 5 shot .38. She likes the no-brainer, double action, stiff trigger, and the visual cylinder load status. The grip fits her hand and though she will shoot a semi pistol, she is very comfortable with the revolver.

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Why not let her try them both and decide for herself?

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