If you don't have the hands of a 12 year old, try the springfield XD45. I picked one up earlier this year & have greatly enjoyed its simplicity. I had been thinking i wanted a 9mm for the extra capacity in the magazine, but this one holds lucky number 13 (not the compact). It is very comfortable and natural for me, and i haven't been into regular target practice in maybe a decade. There is a pics thread in the XD section of the forum, take a look & then go hold one at a shop or range.