Originally Posted by JD1969
My little girl is only 5, so I have a few years before I enter this phase. I did have a GF in high school whose dad did the "gun thing". It didn't work as I was raised around firearms and knew what he had and what he was trying to do. Her dad and I became friends and we hunted together many times.
When she is old enough to date, the boy who is taking her out will know in no uncertain terms that he will be held accountable.
When I was in HS, most of the boys joked about the pathetic attempts to intimidate them. As I said, I don't have kids nor likely ever will. But am of the firm opinion that if you are actually trying to intimidate your daughter's boyfriend then you are focusing your energy in the wrong direction. Kids are going to be kids and they are going to do what they are going to do. Knowing that my father trusted me was one of the best feelings in the world. It made me want to make him proud. Made me want to make good decisions. Whereas the girls I knew who's fathers were overly protective (not saying anyone here is that guy) saw that mistrust as an insult to them and rebelled. And yes, I understand the whole "I trust you, but not him." Teenage girls don't see it that way. If you are actually trying to intimidate their boyfriends instead of just playing around, then many girls see that as you not trusting their judgment.
Intimidation is one thing. Accountability is another.
Just my two cents.
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