I remember my dad yelling at his wife "Why don't you just shut up?" And then she did. Every time. Everyone felt sad for her.
"Shut up" is a banned phrase at my house. I don't say it to my wife or my children, and I won't hear it from anyone.
The wife and I do not always agree. When that occurs, we discuss it privately. And I never, never talk about wife problems with anyone other than my wife. Who else could correct it anyway?
And that "don't go to bed mad" baloney is crap. We all get angry. You don't need to change her opinion, just accept it.
We all make mistakes and we all have regrets. There will be bad times and sad times but you love through them.
I don't remember all the arguments we have had. I do remember all the good times.
There is a country and western song about this and I would love to post a link but I don't know how with the new app. Anyway, it is a lotta things different by Kenny Chesney.