Originally Posted by winds-of-change
I think we may have to agree to disagree. I conduct interviews for our police department. I like to see the applicants come in wearing suits and ties. It shows me they have respect for the Commission and the position they are applying for. I would not expect anyone who doesn't own a suit to buy one for the interview. If the applicant comes in wearing khakis and a nice shirt, I'm okay with that, too. I would not hire or not hire someone based on their clothes (unless they come in wearing dirty sneakers and a Nike logo shirt or something like that). I think dressing nicely for an interview and having proper manners at a business meal is showing respect. Just my humble opinion.
I guess we will.
Of course, i've never been to an interview in anything less than a really nice blazer/sports coat and slacks with a well-pressed dress shirt and tie and have usually gone with the charcoal suit. I look at the interview suit as a simple way of saying to the interviewer that i do have something to wear to a meeting of the directors if need-be, NOT as an example of what i will be wearing to work on a regular basis.
I wasn't suggesting that someone should gobble, belch, and scratch at a business dinner. I was suggesting that the very idea of combining work with dining into a "business dinner" is more of an oxymoron than "jumbo shrimp" and more plainly more of an afront to the pleasure and relaxation that dining (a very basic function of all living beings, like dropping a deuce) should be than a "working weekend" or a "business vacation" or quick & simple colonoscopy.
I see nothing wrong with waving off the meal during such a miserable experience to concentrate on the "business" part and have done so in the past with no repercussions or regrets. Were i asked by a student i would not hesitate to advise them to do the same, POLITELY. We aren't pack animals; we don't all have to eat at the same carcass.
This is not to say i have anything against a casual dinner with coworkers; that can be a good way to get to know them and to know more about the company.