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Old 08-28-2013, 05:38 AM   #1
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So this afternoon I stopped by the DMV office and the line was out the frigging door. As I was approaching the end of the line at my normal walking pace (I am 6' 4", so I cover a bit of ground rather quickly) this little pudgy dude waddles up as fast as he can just short of running and we arrive at the end of the line at exactly the same moment and both stand side-by-side in the next place until he says "Would you let me in this space here?" indicating the space between me and the next guy ahead of us.

I wait a couple of seconds, giving him plenty of opportunity, and then simply said "No."

He looks up at me (he was literally a foot or more shorter) and says "May I ask why not?"

I look down and say "You didn't say 'please'."

He then says "Please?"

Me: "Too late."

Him: "No room for compromise?"

Me: "None."

He then lights into this diatribe about courtesy and compromise, at least that was the gist of it and after a minute or two I stop him and say "I have to tell you, I am stone deaf in this ear and fortunately I cannot hear you." (this is quite true I might add. I am stone deaf in my right ear).

After a couple of minutes of silence he moves over to my left and says: "I am sorry that you are deaf in that ear."

I replied "Don't be. You had nothing to do with it."

At this point a gal came up (who had apparently been parking the car) and they start talking about how much BS it was that the line was so long, they even tried calling the 800 number to try and get an appointment while they were in line! (what a couple of douchebags!) and he kept trying to prod more out of me but I wasn't taking the bait at all.

all told we were in line about 20 minutes, and when I got to the counter my question for the DMV guy took him quite awhile to answer, he had to go in back and ask his supervisor about it and that took several minutes. When I got my answer I turned and left. Almost expected the little bugger to comment on how long I took but didn't.

Anyhow, I thought it was a funny exchange and yo'all might get a smile out of it.

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Old 08-28-2013, 06:39 AM   #2
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So this afternoon I stopped by the DMV office and the line was out the frigging door. As I was approaching the end of the line at my normal walking pace (I am 6' 4", so I cover a bit of ground rather quickly) this little pudgy dude waddles up as fast as he can just short of running and we arrive at the end of the line at exactly the same moment and both stand side-by-side in the next place until he says "Would you let me in this space here?" indicating the space between me and the next guy ahead of us.

I wait a couple of seconds, giving him plenty of opportunity, and then simply said "No."

He looks up at me (he was literally a foot or more shorter) and says "May I ask why not?"

I look down and say "You didn't say 'please'."

He then says "Please?"

Me: "Too late."

Him: "No room for compromise?"

Me: "None."

He then lights into this diatribe about courtesy and compromise, at least that was the gist of it and after a minute or two I stop him and say "I have to tell you, I am stone deaf in this ear and fortunately I cannot hear you." (this is quite true I might add. I am stone deaf in my right ear).

After a couple of minutes of silence he moves over to my left and says: "I am sorry that you are deaf in that ear."

I replied "Don't be. You had nothing to do with it."

At this point a gal came up (who had apparently been parking the car) and they start talking about how much BS it was that the line was so long, they even tried calling the 800 number to try and get an appointment while they were in line! (what a couple of douchebags!) and he kept trying to prod more out of me but I wasn't taking the bait at all.

all told we were in line about 20 minutes, and when I got to the counter my question for the DMV guy took him quite awhile to answer, he had to go in back and ask his supervisor about it and that took several minutes. When I got my answer I turned and left. Almost expected the little bugger to comment on how long I took but didn't.

Anyhow, I thought it was a funny exchange and yo'all might get a smile out of it.

Don't forget to say "please" and "thank you"!
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If that guy was sooo worried about it, why didn't

he get there when the DMV opened?
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If that guy was sooo worried about it, why didn't

he get there when the DMV opened?
I didn't care enough to ask. It was at 3:30 in the afternoon when this happened.
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He sounds like the type to not work for a living, expecting something from everyone. That is the "in" thing these days, isn't it?
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He sounds like the type to not work for a living, expecting something from everyone. That is the "in" thing these days, isn't it?
That's quite an assumption based on the facts of the story.

I'm one of those people who hurry to get in line. Others dawdle and I am pretty assertive. However, I stop just short of "a**h***". I won't cut people off, I won't nudge, I don't give passive aggressive looks or sighs. Basically I stop just short of what I personally find annoying. I figure I should act in a manner I expect other people to.

On the other hand, I am easily amused and I think Vikingdad is much better behaved than I am because I would have spent the entire time needling that guy for my own amusement. As I said, I stop short of "a**h***" but I'm pretty comfortable in full blown jerk territory. The older I get the less tolerant I seem to be for other people's bull****.
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LOL.............I had to report for jury duty, I got there before they had posted a sign on the door to wait in the hall. I sat thru the procedings of the defendants before the judge before court started. LOl. It changed the whole court for the day..........The defendants got the short end of the stick...........
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Sounds to me like there was no compromise to be made. You either gave the place in line up or not. It was your choose. He didn't satisfy you in his request and he got the answer you wished yo give. Maybe if he has offered a please that would have gave you something to consider. But you had to explain to him he didn't and he had no desire to do so. That 5to me is a feeling of entitlement. He felt entitles to the spot and probably will rant for days how you didn't bow down to his request. He didn't ask you he made a request in the form of a question. Like it was DMV Jeopardy or something. It sounded to me like he literally believed his time was more valuable than yours and got offended that you didn't realize it.

And what does it matter if your reason for being there cost the line 10 seconds or 30 minutes? Maybe th epeopel working should have been better trained, I can't say. But you had an issue and it doesn't matter to the rest of the line how long it took to get your business dealt with.

You did nothing wrong and I hope the whole issue gave him hard gas. It's people like him that make me wish you could but a fart in a can and you could spray it on offenders like that like pepper spray. Your opinion sticks spanky..so here!
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He sounds like the type to not work for a living, expecting something from everyone. That is the "in" thing these days, isn't it?
That's the way it's always been.

We glorify the past in ways we ought not to. It only negates the struggle of providers past while not helping to form a solution.


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