Originally Posted by Benning Boy
Why do country boys/rednecks/whatever we call them in some degrading fashion get the rep that they're without manners, when in fact they seem to have the best manners and are oft times the hallmark of what a gentleman should be?
I've always thought that must be some kind of self-deprecating humor by remote thing. It should be pointed out that the reddest of the red have a rep for not caring for the "prettiness" of their yards; i think this has more to do with a rejection of others' ideals than a lack of interest in lawn maintenance or decorating.
Personally, i don't consider myself a gentleman. I'm big on "function over form" as an ideal. I don't generally eat at places that would be appropriate for "table manners" or with anyone who would appreciate them. I view the video game/texter/ipod devotees similarly to the people who look at the ground to avoid eye contact; i don't mind if someone doesn't want to interact, so long as they stay out of the way of others. I do find myself referring to people as Mr. ___ or Mrs. ___ , even if the blank is a first name, hard-wired from youth.
I think most of the appearance-related problems are more due to a generational gap than intentional disrespect or a comprehensive lack of care for one's appearance. I remember wearing torn jeans and having long hair in the '80's. I see no reason for a person to wear a suit in this day and age, unless they are attending a formal meeting of a group that expects such a costume (a sport coat and tie is not a suit).