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Old 08-30-2012, 03:40 PM   #21
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I know i know. I dont know why its so hard for me. How and where would be a good place to start this war do you think?
Invite him over for dinner, let you're daughter eat with ya'll and out her to bed. Don't let it turn into a war, your daughter is old enough to know when stuff like that happens. After dinner, lay it all out for him. And whatever he says, yes he will sober up, or no he doesnt have a problem dont let him see her for awhile. Make him miss her, it might seem mean but this is for her safety and his well being. Just my 2 cents.
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You have to lay it down for him.

It's hard but you have to do it for the safety of your kid.
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The very next time you go to work. Before you punch in. Put all your cards on the table, let the chips fall where they may. Be prepared for the whirlwind. With that said, there are ways of conveying your thoughts. Do you love your Dad? Tell him, it is a good place to start. Then give him your concerns, let him know how this is negatively effecting your relationship with him, your marriage, life in general. Discuss with your wife what steps he could take that over time you may begin to trust him as his behavior changes. Relate those steps to him as a path of getting what he wants.

You are between a cliff and a brushfire. You will have to walk thru this fire, do it soon before it pushes you off the cliff.
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Old 08-30-2012, 04:19 PM   #24
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Thats exactly how i feel. Its causing me a massive amount of stress.
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Thats exactly how i feel. Its causing me a massive amount of stress.
Then act...... Even if you don't do it exactly right it will be a huge wieght off. Look, life is about problems and dealing with them. You need to get to your next problem.
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Don't stress if you are doing what's right, especially for your kid.

My two cents: maybe talk to a pastor
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I want to just say it today so i can be done with it but im afraid of the consequences.......... im a little messed up
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I want to just say it today so i can be done with it but im afraid of the consequences.......... im a little messed up
Just think of it like this. If your dad was watching your and something happens to her, how would you feel? This is your family and not his! You are the father of your daughter, he is not. You might be surprised on what your dad might say.
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sometimes people are alcoholics and they just don't know they are or are in denial.

this has to be done, no doubt about that, because the welfare of your daughter is at stake. God forbid something were to happen to her, while in their care, would cause much more grief than confronting him now, before the possibility of something happening.

above all, remember he is your father, but state your concerns, and stand firm and calm, and no matter how pissed off he gets, treat him with respect. i think in the long run, he will decide to change and by showing him respect through it all, it will make the healing process between you two easier. good luck.
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Thank you all for your advice
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