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Old 08-30-2012, 02:49 PM   #11
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My dad is an alcoholic, i know that it can destroy relationships. He has turned his life around and has been a great father and husband. I am gonna tell you the same thing everyone else has, man up. It will be uncomfortable, it may escalate to him screaming, stay calm and tell him either he sobers up or he cant see your daughter, it's that simple. I have a little sister and if i thought my dad/grandpa was putting her in the slightest danger he wouldn't be allowed near her without me around. Talk to your dad, stand your ground.
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Old 08-30-2012, 03:12 PM   #12
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He loves my daughter to death as well and she loves seeing him. Both my father and his girlfriend drink and he has an inground pool with no cover on it. This sucks.
That would be the reason you can't accommodate an accident waiting in the wings. He loves your daughter and that is good. But that one concern about the pool is enough reason not to bring up drinking but stay with safety issue and say as a father yourself: No. (Even Jesus said no once to someone wanting to be healed. If Jesus can say no, you can say it too).
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Old 08-30-2012, 03:23 PM   #13
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I know. He needs to hear the whole reason though. Ive already addressed my concerns about the pool
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Old 08-30-2012, 03:25 PM   #14
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I know. He needs to hear the whole reason though. Ive already addressed my concerns about the pool
How did he respond?
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He said he wouldn't take his eyes off her. I said it doesnt matter. Shes like lightning. He wants to take her shopping for an afernoon but i can remember him starting on the beers as early as 10 am when i was a kid on the weekends. Wtf
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Drinking at 10 am? You got family or friends that feel the same? Maybe an intervention...
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Old 08-30-2012, 03:33 PM   #17
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Drinking at 10 am? You got family or friends that feel the same? Maybe an intervention...
This sounds like the kind of guy where an intervention would piss him off, not help, just my opinion.

To the OP i still side with the others, tell him to sober up, or he cant se her anymore.

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I could not say it better than C3. Take a deep breath and tell him what he needs to hear and what you need to say. The consequences will be far less than if you place your daughter in his care and something happens. Matter of fact you would be negligent yourself for allowing it.
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I know i know. I dont know why its so hard for me. How and where would be a good place to start this war do you think?
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I know i know. I dont know why its so hard for me. How and where would be a good place to start this war do you think?
If he wants to see her take her there and say what you have to, with your wife outside with the kid maybe. When he asks why don't you leave the kid and do whatever, drop the bomb. If he acts like an a$$hat, leave.
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