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fa35jsf 04-17-2013 09:57 PM

How to get wife onboard?
Some of y'all probably have to deal with this, some not. I am about to be married in a little over a month. My future wife is not afraid of guns and she has shot before, she is actually a good shot, and she recently got her CHL with me (although it was "against her will" haha). She really doesn't plan on ever carrying a gun. To her, guns are all the same. One gun fits all.

But to me they are a hobby and fun to shoot. They have different uses. I want to buy an AR-15 and a 12ga pump shotgun for home defense. Now we have the money, and technically I could still buy it with "my" money since we aren't one yet, but I would feel terrible to go behind her back like that. Plus I caught a lot of flack when I bought an inexpensive pistol a few months ago without telling her first.

I want to get these guns because 1) I have always wanted them 2) I am in the military and I want her to have something easier to handle then a pistol for at home. Plus, if I have both of my pistols with me then her only option right now is the .270 or a .22LR. Neither is optimal!

So what kind of advice do y'all have for talking to a significant other to have a conversation about this? Any good tips or one liners?

danf_fl 04-17-2013 10:28 PM

"What? This? Oh, I had that before we got married! Mom and Dad kept it for me."

This will work for the first 3 years. After that, she might think that you are buying guns behind her back.

PanBaccha 04-17-2013 10:35 PM

In the larger picture purchasing firearms for home defense IS in her best interest, as far as safety goes. I would imagine if she'd agree having seen the big picture, the weight of her argument (..buying behind her back) would lose force. Congratulations on the upcoming marriage.

fa35jsf 04-17-2013 10:36 PM

haha. Unfortunately she is a little more bright than that. She pretty well knows what I got and ain't got.

ccrow175 04-17-2013 10:39 PM

Bring it up as an investment. Use the current inflation as an example. Precious metals fluctuate in price, but firearms don't depreciate much and always have a quick resale value. Show her prices 8 months ago compared to current. My fiance supports 100% knowing that what is in our safe could potentially keep us on our toes for over a year if we lost our jobs. Not only that, our world doesn't seem to be getting any more comfortable for the people. Some invest in silver, not me. You can't eat silver, and unless you have a really good throwing arm, you can't use it to hunt.

DFlynt 04-17-2013 11:43 PM

Have her lean way over the side and then really rock the boat hard...Oh you said get her onboard, not bad! :D

OT PanBaccha's line of thought is probably your best bet.

Kdub 04-17-2013 11:49 PM

My girl is the same way. I just tell her how important it is to me. She buys clothes every other day, I buy guns when I have the money. As long as you arent going into debt i think its reasonable. I save a little each check then buy when I have enough. If the woman says no no way I would be looking for one that supports your interests, or at least doesn't say no to you like a parent. Stand your ground, where the pants. I hope it doesnt get that far.

Kdub 04-17-2013 11:53 PM

Or I just pulled this one...I told the woman every day I don't buy a can of chew I get 5 dollars to spend on my hobbies. Day 1 down 5 in my pocket. We will see how long it lasts.

HockaLouis 04-18-2013 12:00 AM

U r already ahead of the game with this lady. Truly. U don't NEED the AR or Mossberg 500 Field/Security Combo tomorrow. U have a lifetime together -- may it be a long one and I hope your first child will be a masculine child. Get your AR for you anniversary (but buy the mags as soon as the price comes down which'll be in a few weeks). And remember: you can act like a man!

fa35jsf 04-18-2013 12:18 AM

Thanks for all the great advice. I know I could just go out an buy the guns and I would in my opinion be well within my rights. However I am trying to start this marriage off right and include her and her opinions in big decisions, especially with money. It's about trust and not going behind her back. So I think I am going to play the security card and maybe the investment card.

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