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Old 02-25-2013, 08:03 PM   #81
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First I will admit, I have never been married and so I can't really say much on it but I wish you the best.

What I can tell you is listen to what the child wants, my parents split when I was four years old and they did weekly custody 50/50 every friday and from the age of 4 to 18 I was living week to week out of a duffle bag going back and fourth and I was miserable in doing it. Week after week going back and forth, it was not fun.

Again I wish you the best.
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Will try to paste this puppy in - this may be the OP if he continues to believe in the "Civil Divorce Theory."

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First I will admit, I have never been married and so I can't really say much on it but I wish you the best.

What I can tell you is listen to what the child wants, my parents split when I was four years old and they did weekly custody 50/50 every friday and from the age of 4 to 18 I was living week to week out of a duffle bag going back and fourth and I was miserable in doing it. Week after week going back and forth, it was not fun.

Again I wish you the best.
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My kids spent weekends with their Dad. As they got older and got involved in sports and school activities and got jobs, they spent less and less time with their Dad. It's too bad you were forced to do that to the age of 18.
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suck it up, be the grown up, and do the right thing for you daughter

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Get the most low down snake lawyer you can afford. You want the dirtiest lawyer you can find. If you feel your child would be better with you FIGHT YOUR ASS OFF. Been there done that got the papers to prove it.

Don't speek to her at all once you start. Not a single word to your soon to be ex. Don't tell her anything. and for god sakes keep your pecker in your pants till you get the final paper work. Don't go out to bars don't bring home strangers.

What ever you do before during or after Do not let your ex or yourself use your child to punish the other.

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Get the most low down snake lawyer you can afford. You want the dirtiest lawyer you can find. If you feel your child would be better with you FIGHT YOUR ASS OFF. Been there done that got the papers to prove it.

Don't speek to her at all once you start. Not a single word to your soon to be ex. Don't tell her anything. and for god sakes keep your pecker in your pants till you get the final paper work. Don't go out to bars don't bring home strangers.

What ever you do before during or after Do not let your ex or yourself use your child to punish the other.
I would not get a 'snake lawyer'. Why make it a war if it doesn't have to be? It doesn't sound like either of them want to 'fight this out'. There was communication throughout my divorce and ours went as smooth as a divorce can go.
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I would not get a 'snake lawyer'. Why make it a war if it doesn't have to be? It doesn't sound like either of them want to 'fight this out'. There was communication throughout my divorce and ours went as smooth as a divorce can go.
I would get a very, very good lawyer. NOT all divorces go smooth Winds! I've been married to ZG for 7 years now and I STILL go back to court for stupid SH!T. So, YES you might have to get a "snake" lawyer because for some stupid reason the courts usually side with the women.
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First I will admit, I have never been married and so I can't really say much on it but I wish you the best.

What I can tell you is listen to what the child wants, my parents split when I was four years old and they did weekly custody 50/50 every friday and from the age of 4 to 18 I was living week to week out of a duffle bag going back and fourth and I was miserable in doing it. Week after week going back and forth, it was not fun.

Again I wish you the best.
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I disagree. I was maybe 6 or 7 when my parents first indicated they were considering a separation. They stayed together until I was 13 and they did divorce. No child of any age can even begin to understand the complexities of marriage, let alone the heartbreak of having that marriage fall apart.

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Get the most low down snake lawyer you can afford. You want the dirtiest lawyer you can find. If you feel your child would be better with you FIGHT YOUR ASS OFF. Been there done that got the papers to prove it.

Don't speek to her at all once you start. Not a single word to your soon to be ex. Don't tell her anything. and for god sakes keep your pecker in your pants till you get the final paper work. Don't go out to bars don't bring home strangers.

What ever you do before during or after Do not let your ex or yourself use your child to punish the other.
Do not get a "snake lawyer" unless you yourself are a snake. Those bastards should not be encouraged. Get a good lawyer who understands family law and shares your values. Shared values and common morals will make for a better client/attorney relationship. That having been said, I think I would look for a female divorce attorney, as in my opinion it takes another woman in order to be truly ruthless to another woman. Men are generally unable to do that (well, at least normal men).
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I would get a very, very good lawyer. NOT all divorces go smooth Winds! I've been married to ZG for 7 years now and I STILL go back to court for stupid SH!T. So, YES you might have to get a "snake" lawyer because for some stupid reason the courts usually side with the women.
Yes, I agree. A good lawyer but not a 'snake lawyer'. I had a good lawyer and I, too, was taken to court off and on as he tried to lower child support or get out of paying his half of the medical bills not covered by insurance. Fortunately, the judge we always stood before was very fair.

To me, 'snake lawyer' implies a lawyer who's going to try to be underhanded and contentious. But I do know a bit about the history of your divorce and your ex-wife. I understand what you're saying.
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I would get a very, very good lawyer. NOT all divorces go smooth Winds! I've been married to ZG for 7 years now and I STILL go back to court for stupid SH!T. So, YES you might have to get a "snake" lawyer because for some stupid reason the courts usually side with the women.
"Stupid Sh!t" from a previous entanglement I hope!
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