I hired a lawyer before mom ever passed. It's a really long story, and my attorney who's little more then a business acquaintance, little less than friend had a hard time believing what I was telling him... He admitted today, this is one of the craziest things he's dealt with in his career.
He convinced me that there was not enough in dispute to file suit over. I would quickly burn through as much money as in dispute. Wildcard is the value the house that IMO was sold WAY TOO cheap.
We had an interesting discussion about the small bank account. Estate attorney wants to open a probate just for that amount. I'm being named as the petitioner instead of the personal rep. SOOO, I asked my attorney if he could do this instead of the slimy badstard handling the trust. He said, no, conflict of interest... but wait, the slimy badstard is also in conflict of interest
I'm a little more settled, still have no idea why my sister is all of a sudden demanding I give her a death certificate. I had an extra 10 copies made by the funeral home.
Even with mom's best attempt to avoid all this, it's still ugly
Guess the thing I'm having the most difficulty with is the memorial service held that I never even knew about
That and conspiring to hide from me that mom had even re-entered the hospital. It was only after the hospital called looking for (my words) an adult to make grown-up decisions. By the time I got involved, she was toast and it was about managing her end of life decisions.
I know that everything I did was right and in her best interests. Not everybody involved can say that.