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Old 06-21-2013, 05:31 PM   #81
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I feel you guys Fathead. That Pentecostal cult is a strange one. I watched it slowly infect my old home town. It was right about when I got out of high school that it started and I went back just this last year and people that I knew back in the old days were like brainwashed zombies.
Good luck and I hope things work out for you guys.
Thanks. It does spread fast and takes over the people. We do know some people have left and they are called "back sliders". It is a very crazy "religion" in my opinion. We just have to keep moving forward and keeping our daughter first!!!
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Thanks. It does spread fast and takes over the people. We do know some people have left and they are called "back sliders". It is a very crazy "religion" in my opinion. We just have to keep moving forward and keeping our daughter first!!!
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Just keep the her in the normal living situation with you , she will one day see what living a truly fun life brings her . You 2 have handled the situation better than most ever could and you bring joy to her life letting her do the normal things kids should be doing . Keep up the good work you 2 , she will one day thank you for all you guys do for her.
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Update..........
Fathead, curious to how life is treating you and ZG regarding your little girl? Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!!
Its been a while but I wanted to update you all also. After the email from my daughter, I just let it go and never responded, prolly for the best. Her birthday was Dec. 29, so after much deliberation with myself, I finally sent her a text basically saying, "Happy Birthday, I love you! Dad". Believe it or not she text me back saying she had been upset for a few days cause all she wanted was for me to tell her happy birthday! We talked thru text for a few minutes and she actually told me she loved me at the end! OMG! She even wants to figure a time we can meet face to face! So my Holidays have been great!!!! She text me "Happy New Year" at 12:01 too. I pray this leads to something good in the near future!
Sorry to ramble but I really wanted you all to hear the good news! Thanks to all for the well wishes! Have a great new year!

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Hey, Fathead00,

I went through the emotionally wrenching situation you are going through

when my daughter was 7. IANAL, but, IME, unless you want to wage a

brutal and expensive legal battle, risking all, in the event you lose,

and not seeing your daughter until you win, you may want to back off,

and let her win the day.

I eventually got my daughter back, a bittersweet victory, because her

mom left the state, and refused to help with her daughter's college

financing.

But to get back to the now, my strategy was "Give ground, give ground,

give ground, then, when you have the opportunity to win more time

with your daughter, dig in and fight like a cornered wolverine."

I went from one day's visitation to 3.5 days every week. When I had the

chance, I even babysat my daughter when my ex wanted to go out.

I signed over the house, retirement fund, and most assets.(Should I have

squandered their value in a legal battle? They would have been equally gone,

but had no trade value with my ex, if I had fought for them.)


The big win for me, was as much time as I could get with my daughter.



Of course, if you think, in the overall scheme of things, that giving your

ex a hard time, breaking her aggies, or winning some "victory", or getting

under your exe's skin somehow, is more important to you, in the long run

than time with your kid, well then, of course, that is up to you. But

do you really think, when you look back on things, 20 years from now,

you will treasure the experience of somehow besting your ex, over the

time you could have spent with your child? YMMV.

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hate to say it but sounds like your dealing with a fultime bitch that grows horns and stays on the rag... you have to pray that the judge will take care of you. sounds like she needs to live with my ex.

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Fathead, curious to how life is treating you and ZG regarding your little girl? Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!!
Its been a while but I wanted to update you all also. After the email from my daughter, I just let it go and never responded, prolly for the best. Her birthday was Dec. 29, so after much deliberation with myself, I finally sent her a text basically saying, "Happy Birthday, I love you! Dad". Believe it or not she text me back saying she had been upset for a few days cause all she wanted was for me to tell her happy birthday! We talked thru text for a few minutes and she actually told me she loved me at the end! OMG! She even wants to figure a time we can meet face to face! So my Holidays have been great!!!! She text me "Happy New Year" at 12:01 too. I pray this leads to something good in the near future!
Sorry to ramble but I really wanted you all to hear the good news! Thanks to all for the well wishes! Have a great new year!
I am SO happy for you. You did the right thing. Sometimes all it takes is a little knock at the door and the door swings open and you are greeted warmly. I know most children love both their parents and do not want to be left out of either parent's lives. You are a great Dad who took that initial step. Your daughter was just waiting for you to do that. Congratulations. I see a happy future for you two.
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Thanks Winds! I couldnt be happier!

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Fathead, curious to how life is treating you and ZG regarding your little girl? Hope everyone had a Merry Christmas!!
Its been a while but I wanted to update you all also. After the email from my daughter, I just let it go and never responded, prolly for the best. Her birthday was Dec. 29, so after much deliberation with myself, I finally sent her a text basically saying, "Happy Birthday, I love you! Dad". Believe it or not she text me back saying she had been upset for a few days cause all she wanted was for me to tell her happy birthday! We talked thru text for a few minutes and she actually told me she loved me at the end! OMG! She even wants to figure a time we can meet face to face! So my Holidays have been great!!!! She text me "Happy New Year" at 12:01 too. I pray this leads to something good in the near future!
Sorry to ramble but I really wanted you all to hear the good news! Thanks to all for the well wishes! Have a great new year!

Very happy to hear your great news!!!!! Everything has been going fine with our youngest. The oldest still doesn't come over. It does hurt, but we put all the attention to the youngest. She is something very, very special to us and she LOVES ZG sooooooo much. We still collect all the **** when it does happen and when that battle comes it will be a SH!T storm at her. Like Wolf says in his comment "give ground". Our youngest one doesn't care if her sister comes over because then she can act how she wants too instead of getting reported to her mom. Thank you for asking how everything is going.
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Hey, Fathead00,

I went through the emotionally wrenching situation you are going through

when my daughter was 7. IANAL, but, IME, unless you want to wage a

brutal and expensive legal battle, risking all, in the event you lose,

and not seeing your daughter until you win, you may want to back off,

and let her win the day.

I eventually got my daughter back, a bittersweet victory, because her

mom left the state, and refused to help with her daughter's college

financing.

But to get back to the now, my strategy was "Give ground, give ground,

give ground, then, when you have the opportunity to win more time

with your daughter, dig in and fight like a cornered wolverine."

I went from one day's visitation to 3.5 days every week. When I had the

chance, I even babysat my daughter when my ex wanted to go out.

I signed over the house, retirement fund, and most assets.(Should I have

squandered their value in a legal battle? They would have been equally gone,

but had no trade value with my ex, if I had fought for them.)


The big win for me, was as much time as I could get with my daughter.



Of course, if you think, in the overall scheme of things, that giving your

ex a hard time, breaking her aggies, or winning some "victory", or getting

under your exe's skin somehow, is more important to you, in the long run

than time with your kid, well then, of course, that is up to you. But

do you really think, when you look back on things, 20 years from now,

you will treasure the experience of somehow besting your ex, over the

time you could have spent with your child? YMMV.


We just keep collecting until that battle needs to be fought. Thank you for asking, but our youngest is loving life at our house when she is over!!!
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