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Old 05-09-2013, 02:50 AM   #11
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I am sorry to hear of yor loss JJ. My wife and I lost a baby a couple years into our marriage.



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well, i announced for the second time that the wifey was prego..
again i regret to inform you all that she had another miscarraige., apprently her thyroid is not working right and is constantly pumping out anti-bodies. we think this is the main cause... at least we found out about the thyroid issue...

and monday i have an apt with the doc.... snip snip... another baby is not worth her health
JJ. You and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers, as is your lost child. When my first wife and I were married, we both wanted children. After 6 years together, we had not conceived, and for several reasons we went our separate ways. Since then, she has had 3 sons with her current husband. The point, I can somewhat understand what your wife is going through. Not completely by any means, but I have a rough idea.

Be there for her, and let her be there for you. You both need each other's support through this, and above all else, remember that everything happens for a reason. NC1760's post is a very good example of this. Remember, there are many children out there who are in need of loving homes, and I can honestly say that I have become a better person since adopting my step-daughter.

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My thoughts are with you and your's buddy. My lovely wife and I tried for years to become a family... and went through more than I wish to go into detail about to make it come true. Then 11 years ago in an orphanage office in the Ukraine... a beautiful 5 month old boy was put into my arms.... and everything we went through made sense to us.

In other words, have faith and love each other and you'll be surprised how things work out..... Good luck.
You have given a child in need a home, and just knowing that about you and your wife is enough for me to say that you have my respect. You are both wonderful caring people.

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It saddens me a great deal to hear of your loss. My wife has miscarried three times due to a similar issue. Sure it's good I guess to learn of a problem and be able to try and help it but it comes at a terrible cost. I know it bothers you a great deal but I can't help but think about how much worse it is for the woman that this happens to. Some things are just way beyond our male comprehension. All we can do is be there and try to find our way back to normal..Whatever that is...

I'll pray for you and your family.
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well, i announced for the second time that the wifey was prego..
again i regret to inform you all that she had another miscarraige., apprently her thyroid is not working right and is constantly pumping out anti-bodies. we think this is the main cause... at least we found out about the thyroid issue...

and monday i have an apt with the doc.... snip snip... another baby is not worth her health
I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I am also sorry to hear about your pending surgery. Before you make a final decision on that you need to do a lot more research on the later effects of a vasectomy. The one that pops into my mind was a tie to hypertension. Also, talk to your Dr. Do not believe everything you read on the internet, but use reputable sites to help you ask the MD informed questions.
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Sorry for your loss jj.

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So sorry JJ, thats truly sad, I will pray for you and your wife, to find the way to move through this. The mysteries of life dont always make sense especially when they involve tragedy like this, when one door closes, more often than not, 2 more open.

I never had children of my own but my stepdaughters are like my children and even better in some ways. The fact that you dont have a new baby of your own may lead you both to being important to lots of others children and that can be very rewarding as well. Creating a Baby is special but not generally unique, helping a child will always be both as well as rewarding beyond your wildest dreams.

God bless you and your wife, this too will pass especially if you fill the void with other voices.

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I'm saddened to hear of your loss. Perhaps someday you can give a loving home to a child that needs it.

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I'm really sorry to hear that.

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thanks everyone. i think we will be fine... i'm positive she took it harder than i did. glad this happenend after already having 2 kids. probly would be a lot harder if we were trying for a first.

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thanks everyone. i think we will be fine... i'm positive she took it harder than i did. glad this happenend after already having 2 kids. probly would be a lot harder if we were trying for a first.
I agree here. Let me first say I am so sorry for your loss. It is difficult to lose a child at any stage of his/her development.

As for how women take it, I have never suffered a miscarriage but I know from the very beginning........from the very moment I knew I was pregnant, I had hopes and plans for that baby. I loved him/her almost from the moment of conception. We Mothers watch what we eat and what we do while pregnant as we are already taking care of "our baby" in utero. To lose a baby before it's birth is tragic to us Moms. Our hopes and dreams are dashed. We lost a child we loved that we have never even met yet. The maternal bond is something I just can't describe in words. It is incredibly strong and an adrenaline/endorphin rush I just can't describe.

JJ, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your wife. Hug her, hold her. Reassure her things will be okay. Try to redirect her two her two children that still need her Mothering. In time, she will get past this but it will always be a scar on her heart that will ache from time to time.


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