Originally Posted by winds-of-change
If you are implying because I did not spank my children that my parenting was ineffective, you are wrong.
NEVER! Corporal punishment is an individual parents choice and has nothing to do with what is effectual or not. I gauge parenting effectiveness on how polite and socially well-balanced a child acts in public and what respect he shows to others and their property. Kids that charge around the store screaming, opening packs of food and food fighting with the salad bar are generally believed by me to have poor or ineffective parents. However, I am not so arrogant to believe my way of parenting is the only right way.
I walked up to a boy roughly 10-12 at a public event because he was sitting alone at a four-person table. I said, "Excuse me" to which he looked me square in the eye and said, "Yes?" I continued, "May my wife and I share your table to eat lunch? It appears to be the only one available." He brightly replied, "Certainly! Be my guest." He was so polite I nearly fell over. As we sat and opened our food, he pulled out a FOUR-by-FOUR (16 squares) to a side Rubic Cube and proceeded to use his phone to time his assembly of one side. No Facebook, no talking to friends. I never met or saw his parents, but my very short visit with their pre-teen son left me very impressed with them as parents. Whatever they did, it works.
Malo periculosam, libertatem quam quietam servitutem." (I prefer the tumult of liberty to the quiet of servitude.). Thomas Jefferson
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
-Edmund Burke, Loosely translated from Thoughts on the Cause of Present Discontents. (1770)